How to get a break?!

[champagnecats92]

Hi all,

Since the beginning of December, I've been through the wars a bit. Strep throat, mild flu, sinusitis, strep throat again and then just a constant sense of unwell. For example, I'm ok(ish) in the day but when I go to bed I get a blocked nose, cough etc as though I have a cold. It then affects my sleep so it's like I'm stuck in this cycle and can't break free - aaagh!

I work part-time and then look after little one (18 months) on the other days. My husband is amazing, he helps with housework and little one. He's also a supportive person to talk to, though I don't want to dump on him all the time poor guy, he needs his time too. We don't have any family help nearby, or at least anyone willing to help.

Perhaps it's just a bad time of year? I don't tend to get that ill, to be honest, so it's caught me out. My sex drive is non-existent and my self-confidence is at an all time low. Urgh. Has anyone else experienced this? Any advice on how I can actually rest would be great - it's so hard with little one around. I feel like I'm missing out if I go upstairs to rest!!

First of all, you’re ill and have been for 2 months by the sounds of it. Why the hell are you even thinking sex? Drop that. I have cancer and have had surgery after surgery for the past 6 months and my treatment for the next year means I can barely get out of bed most mornings. No sex has been on the cards and will not be until I am done treatment and feeling better. Focus on yourself and getting back to normal.

Is your Dh as unwell as you are? If no, he needs to be doing the nights and giving you time on his days off to rest. That might be a lie in both days. That might be one or both days on the weekend, he takes dc out for the day and you can rest and sleep. You presumably solo parent during the week on your days off, so he should be able to on the weekends. You do as much of that as you can until you’re better.

And take vitamin C and zinc every day. Is there anything in your bedroom causing your symptoms? Mould hiding behind a big piece of furniture, dust, etc?