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How do you deal with regret?

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MsGoodenough · 05/02/2025 21:48

I am absolutely crippled with regret. It's not something I can learn from as the opportunity has passed. I torment myself with going over and over what I should have done. I know I need to stop but I can't work out how. Does anyone have any tips for dealing with regret? (My main one relates to not staying split up with DP when DD was small, plus also a million other smaller ways I'm convinced I've done the wrong thing).

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BSky · 08/02/2025 15:22

It's good you're having therapy. It can sometimes open some difficult feelings/issues, which can be painful. It is good to work through them at your own pace.

You'll get through this, it feels tough now but you won't feel this way forever.

Make sure you're doing some nice things for yourself everyday. Take care

AcquadiP · 08/02/2025 15:23

RubiesAndRaindrops · 05/02/2025 22:17

The opportunity may have passed but it sounds like you have learnt from it, because if you could go back in time you would make a different decision. I don't know that it's helpful, but when I've regretted something I think to myself - under those same circumstances without the benefit of hindsight/what I know today, would I still have made the same decision? Usually it's yes of course. There's a reason why you made whatever decision you did at that point in time. I think (or hope, at least) that most people do the best they can with what information and experience they have at the time. All you can do is acknowledge your mistakes, not do them again and try to educate your DC not to do what you did. Be kind to yourself OP x

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