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What do you do whilst you're eating?

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mumofoneAlonebutokay · 05/02/2025 17:12

I usually eat my 5pm dinner with dd at the table whilst the chase is on

As its cold, we're spending out time in my bedroom where it's warmer so we just eat on the bed with trays

Otherwise I always eat whilst watching tv

I'm trying to avoid the tv as much as poss except for love island and eastenders so now I'm sat listening to the radio whilst 'eating mindfully' for my weight loss 🙄 with dd on her tablet

It feels so weird as I used to always pair eating and watching tv - i do think that's where the weight gain comes from as I'd need food to watch a good show

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Verlaine · 05/02/2025 21:19

I get up very early and always have my cup of tea and toast while sitting in front of my laptop reading mumsnet posts.
I like to do this, but yes, it's easier to over eat when distracted by looking at the computer, I think.
The next meal is tea time, with DH and grown up DSs.
We sit round the table, with a tablet on the table silently showing beach cams, a welcome sight in winter.

is this satire!

JimHalpertsWife · 05/02/2025 21:22

Me dh and the kids (mainly the kids) never stop chatting. It's relentless. Waching a TV show we all love whilst eating is a welcome relief.

BackInFive · 05/02/2025 21:37

We all eat together at the dining table.
No phones allowed.
We chat, talk about our day, what we’re going to do at the weekend, anything really.
We usually have the radio on very low in the background, as I like to listen to it whilst cooking.

Quite often, on a Friday, we make pizzas and eat them in the living room whilst watching a film. We put a blanket out like a picnic. The kids love it. We still chat whilst eating, no one really watches the movie tbh😆

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mumofoneAlonebutokay · 05/02/2025 22:11

sinon · 05/02/2025 20:58

I've got physical issues, disabilities, and fatigue from those.
You wouldn't know if you knew me/met me because I mask and I'm only in front of people when I'm doing ok.

I eat most of my meals in bed, often scrolling my phone.
I have a dining table with a great upright comfortable chair with arms to support my body, but it's still exhausting to sit in it.
I WFH and mealtimes are my 'down time' so I need to rest and eat.

I have a young child, when they get home we eat at the table together, on occasion with the iPad watching something grown up like pointless, but mostly just chatting. I'm absolutely done by 6 when we eat, so DC does most of the talking, it's very tiring being the listener!

I feel for you op, I'm a lone parent but my child is chatty and eats well so mealtimes are pleasant, it's still a million miles from how I grew up and how I would have like my own family life to be like, but we are where we are.

You're going your best, everyone is an individual and so are families, I think people who's lives aren't touched by ND or disabilities/health issues are so blissfully unaware that life doesn't quite fall into place for those whose lives are impacted by the above.

When my little one was young I was told by a friend to read aloud while they ate, it distracts them enough to keep chomping, didn't work for me and my kid, but I can see it's a good way to keep the interaction going without being too draining. Doesn't just have to be kids books, can be anything, cereal boxes etc etc

Hard agree with you, and sorry to hear you're doing it solo with physical health issues as well x

I completely relate to just being exhausted and wanting to feel that comfort and sometimes disconnection - or connection to the world sometimes, that's why I love my soaps

I do love to read aloud anyway to practice my very poor and basic level French so could try it at the dinner table- trying to get my hands on a physically copy of French vogue but I'm finding it impossible

Thank you 🥰 - it's not always easy but I'm grateful tbh, she's come a long way and is really good and sweet xx

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GameOfJones · 05/02/2025 22:19

We eat most of our meals at the table with DDs. No devices allowed but radio or music on if we fancy it. But we do also eat regularly in the living room and that will be in front of the tv e.g. pizza and a film at the weekend.

No food allowed in bedrooms ever, I hate the thought of crumbs or food smells near where I sleep. I like keeping my bedroom for sleeping or sex and not an extension of the living room.

HappyBirlingDay · 05/02/2025 22:34

Verlaine · 05/02/2025 21:10

Sit together with no devices and chat. Much better than eating in front of the TV.

@HappyBirlingDay why? If you talk at other times why is this a sacred time! I prefer to talk when I’m not eating dinner after a long day at work.

Just a personal preference, but I can’t stand it when people use the TV as background noise.

mathanxiety · 05/02/2025 23:27

It sounds as if your meals suit you and DD perfectly, OP.

It doesn't matter what other people do as long as you're happy with your way of doing it.

Vettrianofan · 06/02/2025 02:22

Always at the table. It's the focal point. Everyone chats together. No TV or music on for those 20 minutes. 4 DC don't know any different.

They are not allowed to eat in bedrooms.

PARunnerGirl · 06/02/2025 04:18

I have to sit at the table to eat. I feel so gross hunched over a plate or tray in my lap! I am sure I am in a minority with this though and I suppose it all just comes down to habits.
On my own I usually have my headphones on and get lost in one of my podcasts or audiobooks, or I read a news magazine I subscribe too that sits on the kitchen table throughout the week so I do actually remember to read it!

Oblomov25 · 06/02/2025 05:25

At the table, nearly always. Very occasional snack in front of tv. To me, it's Very important for family to sit together at the table for an evening meal.

Ilovemyshed · 06/02/2025 09:48

Largely sit at the dining table and talk to husband for our main meal and brunches at weekend. Music might be on in the background. Sometimes the news or Saturday morning Kitchen on tv. Very occasional treat of a tv supper with tray on knee.

On my own, I still sit at the table, usually with a book.

Never ever eat in the bedroom. Just a hot choc or a cuppa.

TV isn't a huge part of our life though. We do go through to the snug and watch a film or a drama on winter evenings after dinner.

BobbyBiscuits · 06/02/2025 12:18

@mumofoneAlonebutokay aww, your dd sounds so cute! 😄 X

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 06/02/2025 12:23

I'll usually sit and watch a Youtube video or two.

Can't talk while I'm eating or I end up with raging indigestion, so I don't appreciate it when people appear to be desperate to start a conversation during meals.

Bwoaolkk · 06/02/2025 13:49

I really struggle to eat proper meals off my lap so always eat my dinner at the table. Most dinners we eat as a family so chat or listen to music. The kids also like to ask Alexa random questions. When I’m by myself I just sit and eat and enjoy the quiet 😂

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 06/02/2025 13:56

Stravaig · 05/02/2025 19:51

My bed doubles as a sitting platform during the day, and that's where I eat too. I'd rather sit at a table, by myself or with others, but needs must. We all do the best we can with what we have.

I focus on the 🌶️🥬🥕🥦🍅🥒🍆🫛🌽🫒🥔🍠🥑🧄🧅🫚🥥🌱🌿🍇🍓🍋🍊🍉🍒🫐🍏🍌🍑🥭🍐😍😋🤗🙏

❤️ sorry I don't think i responded to this!

😩 she can name lots of veg and will happily play with them. She had a lovely time throwing the apple I gave her up into the air and trying to catch it! 😭

I love my bed 😄 I'm in it now as it's warm with the electric blanket, just before I leave for the school run.

Sometimes you just have to get through! Agree xx

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mumofoneAlonebutokay · 06/02/2025 14:00

frozendaisy · 05/02/2025 20:02

But if you include doll and have silly questions which you can communicate with her, via words, hand signals, drawings, you can build up a conversation confidence between yourselves.

it’s not going to be perfect or possibly even fun or useful to begin with.

But in our house, after much gentle persistence we found an easy flow (think in years not weeks!)

and there is nothing wrong if you eat alone after daughter is in bed eating in bed with tv on.

think I spent half my 20s living off peanut butter on toast in bed, it was easy quick, alas my older body demands more varied vitamins and minerals now, but they were easy, happy days!

Okay I will try this at dinner today 🙂 and see how we do! Agree with everything it's repetition until she's comfortable x

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mumofoneAlonebutokay · 06/02/2025 15:17

BobbyBiscuits · 06/02/2025 12:18

@mumofoneAlonebutokay aww, your dd sounds so cute! 😄 X

Thank you ❤️ she's has her moments but is the sweetest thing 🥰

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