"I've been so ill" 🤧 -PLEASE stop doing this!

[amoreoamicizia]

I'm sitting here with painful lungs coughing up phlegm all because on Sunday afternoon someone came up to me specifically to inform me how terribly ill they'd been, while bright red in the face with streaming eyes and still very clearly ill. And yes, I do know that I caught it from this person.

Why? Just why?

Anyone that knows me knows I am waiting for a non-serious but very important operation. Now if the opportunity comes up this week I won't be able to take it, not to mention that it's just very unpleasant and inconvenient to be ill.

I'm just sick of people who do this with literally no thought for others. I'd never dream of approaching someone while I'm heavily ill just to tell them how ill I am. It's like a child who only thinks of themselves and what they want to tell you!

If they came up to you then I’m assuming you were out and about in public, in which case anyone could pass anything on to you at any time. It might be an idea to consider going back to mask wearing and hand sanitiser to ensure you stay germ free until you have your op. Not that you should have to, but plenty of people are selfish in spreading their germs about.
Being ill is miserable, and there is so much about at the moment. Thankfully my poorly colleagues have been less selfish and do wear masks to work when ill.
I hope you feel better soon and do get a date for your op before too long.

If they came up to you then I’m assuming you were out and about in public in which case anyone could pass anything on to you at any time.

I am staying at home until the op, I just ventured out to the local shop (on foot) where this happened. That's how I know for sure. I'm just pissed off that all this effort has been undone by one unthinking person.

But how did they approach you to tell you this if you were, as one would expect, keeping yourself safely at home or at a safe distance from other people outdoors in readiness for your surgery? This is one of those situations where you need to be pro-active.

X-post. Then you need to be masked and actively tell people to keep at a distance!

I am proactive! You cannot be much more proactive than staying at home for weeks! I was just grabbing some milk and they came up specifically to tell me this! I won't accept being blamed for their actions in coming up to me, heavily ill, JUST to say how ill they were.

I don’t think having a bad cold is going to stop you having an op is it? It didn’t me.

Beyond that, yes they were daft but I think you are making too big a deal of this. Wear a mask next time, it tends to make people back off.

Yes, it stops me having the op. On a separate note, I suspect it's more than a cold, anyway, because my lungs hurt so much.

People are dicks OP. Get well soon 😞

Yes it does
So is catching Covid or the flu even if you feel well in yourself.
etc etc

I'm sorry you're now feeling unwell OP. And i hope you get better soon. But I think you're just looking for someone to blame here.

If it goes to your chest which a lot of the current viruses are it can mean that a general anaesthetic is risky. I was scheduled for an op under GA and because I was still recovering from a chesty virus I had to have it done without GA which was fine for my surgery but would mean postponing many others.

OP I’m completely with you on this. If I’m unwell I keep my distance from people and if I’ve got a nasty lurgy I wouldn’t be going to the shop. I hope you recover quickly and fully asap.

I have a friend with damaged lungs. If she catches a cold it almost always turns into a chest infection/worse.
If you have a cold and you plan to see her, you cancel, she’s glad you do. Our ex friend went to stay with her with a a streaming cold (stayed in her house) and she got a severe chest infection and was off work for weeks. She went because she was doing a course nearby and it was easier than travelling back on the same day! People are thoughtless.

@amoreoamicizia people are shit.
Im going to be kind and assume they didn’t know about you staying at home and avoiding people to be able to have that surgery.
But even then, that was a dick move.

Unfortunately, people are now convinced that you need to be on close contact blabla to catch anything when actually just a quick chat can be enough. Or just walking past/being in the same room.
You need to assume people are twats who dint care about other people’s health. And the only way to do that and still be able to go out is to wear a mask.

Actually I was just off googling this out of interest, and according to this you should tell them if you have a cough or cold and they’ll you if it’s a problem - presumably it will be if you are very vulnerable and not if you aren’t.

Certainly I v obviously had a cold and no one mentioned it or cared.

Covid or proper flu is obviously different - but the OP sounds like she just has a cold, so unless she’s vulnerable in herself I don’t think it’s an issue.

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/having-surgery/preparation/

It is an issue due to the nature of the operation itself! How many times?

I agree; I went in my small local shop and the owner had a really bad cough,and announced it was "that 90 day cough". I've got asthma and I'm wary after a bad chest infection at Christmas one year made me really ill. There are plenty of staff in the shop so there was no excuse! Also I've noticed a couple of people ( one a neighbour, the other a relative) get up close in my face when we're talking; the relative has actually coughed in my face a couple of times!! I avoid her now. What the hell is wrong with people!! If I'd said anything to her she'd have flounced off.

Sorry, this was just my bad temper coming out though! Just frustrated. I've not actually been offered the op so there is that.

I can’t say I’ve experienced what you describe OP, wrt someone that’s ill doing this, but surely the sensible thing for you to do is to mask up and avoid people as much as possible.

Obviously it’s impossible to totally avoid people, so wouldn’t wearing one of those beaky masks (I forget the name) give you a bit of reassurance when you’re out?

@amoreoamicizia

With respect, from looking at your previous posts, you sound like you have severe health anxiety.

5 or 6 posts about your health in the last month or so.

Specifically how yoga class is making you ill (?!), a post about how you had got a headache and sickness from inhaling some mould on a loaf of bread, the volume of Christmas music making you stressed....

@WattleTyler I’m sorry but your post annoyed me.

Youre starting saying you’ve never experienced it - implying that somehow the OP must have got it wrong.
Then you’re saying that she ought to wear a mask. But it’s followed by ‘one of those beaky mask so you feel reassured’. Well sorry but fuck that.
1- these ‘beaky masks’ are fpp2 or fpp3 and not all of those have that shape. I’d have thought that after 5 years, people knew that. They’re also the only type that will actually protect you.
2- what’s the point of doing something to protect yourself if it’s only ‘to make you feel better’ aka it’s not efficient and won’t protect you
3- if you’ve read the OP correctly, the OP HAS stopped seeing people and is self isolating, doing the very thing you think you can’t possibly do. And that’s because tyat surgery is very important to her. Like a friend of mine having cancer surgery but had to delay it by 1 month because … yes she got ill.

And I don't care what language I've used since I'm leaving the site during to the pay wall 😀

Yes, that's really inconsiderate of her. You're doing nothing wrong. I'm not sure why that poster is trying to make out you should have done things differently. The ill person could easily have been considerate and kept her distance if she knew she was ill. Some people are just inconsiderate