My sister and I have never been close. She's very outgoing, sociable and has a big personality. I was a quiet child growing up, I'm not comfortable in new social situations and am most comfortable with a few close friends. I'm pretty sure I have ADHD, but not diagnosed.
In adulthood we have been civil to each other but the relationship has declined over the past few years, and I'm not too sure why. When her first child was born over 10 years ago I went to stay with her for a few days and remember having a good time, enjoyed helping her out with a newborn or just helping round the house etc. We stayed again as a family a couple of years ago and it was awful, she was so rude and condescending, and I spent one evening crying when she had gone to bed, and told myself I'd not be back to stay again.
The past few weeks I've just been reminded how sad it is. Was with a good friend who's sister had offered some practical help for her kid's birthday party, and another friend who's sister's family had some bad damage during the storm and she had spent the day helping them. It just reminded me that my sister would never offer any practical support, even if she lived close enough to do so. She's not interested in offering any type of support at all, and I have had to step back too because of how rude she has become.
Just feeling a bit sad about it today as it has hit me how lucky some other's are to have a good relationship with their siblings and to have someone who would offer support without even being asked.