I actually want to be friends?

[Momofff2]

im 27yo on the spectrum with 2 kids. 3.5yo and 1yo.

No kids or much family on my side. DH has more family on his side

Now I look at SIL and BIL, they have a good healthy relationship, seem to have good parenting values from what I see! Good taste/style etc so I in a masking sense copied a bit
I always look for parenting tips as I want to be the best ever I can be! But try not to be too obvious with trying to mask as people don’t get me. DH barely does.

I want to be friends this sounds odd with them. We’re close at an arms length id say as DH’s side do stuff now and then but not all the time! But how do I make friends type of thing?

don’t want to seem creepy or weird

Popped this in chat not sure where else to put it x

Invite them out and around? Try and think of something they'd like to do, plan to go and ask if they want to join? Suggest play dates?

Good advice from @phoenixbiscuits !

Are your children around the same age as their cousins?

They'd probably already be friends with you if they wanted to be.

Can't you just have a good arms length relationship?

Surely, as these are people on your husband's side, he'd be able to easily encourage these relationships, have you spoken to him about it?