I have a broken heart and I'm looking for a hand hold

[WingSlutz]

Been seeing a lovely man for about 5 months. First relationship since my divorce. Everything was great, the chat, the laughs, the sex. We fell deeply in love.
However there is a substantial age difference which meant it was always going to be a challenge (I'm older with DCs, he's not got kids). Anyway today he told me he loved me but didn't see a future for us. I suppose I always knew this might happen but my god it hurts. It was the first time I had been happy in a relationship for so long. The first time I'd felt seen as a person not just a mum or a housekeeper.
I'm still in love with him and just don't know how to stop. I'm so very sad. I want to sleep for a month and wake up feeling better.

You'll be over it in about half the time you were together. So it really hurts now but in about 2.5 months you'll be over it.

Ugh that seems so long. Everything seems so grey and flat

One hour at a time. You'll get there hun x

You will get over it. 5 months really isn’t that long to be together. Sounds like it all went a little too fast? I’m a cynic but DH and I did not declare love for a good 9 months.

It’s good to take things slowly and let them show you their true character. You also protect yourself in the process…I would definitely take it slower next time.

I hope you feel better soon!

@Delatron I agree it's better to take it slow, unfortunately I fell hard despite myself. I honestly don't know how to stop myself.

A lot of young men seem to be attracted to older women but they're looking at it from the sexual and romantic view, not from a practical long term view. They're young and don't want to put down roots yet so a relationship with a woman with DC isn't really what they're looking for. I hope you'll feel better very soon Op

I'm sorry you're feeling so sad and hurt right now. It will pass.

It feels worse because it was the first post-divorce relationship and you took it too fast. It sounds like you got too deep too fast because were trying to use it to heal the divorce wound? That's probably also what's making it feel so much of a blow - the loss of what you hoped he represented as your healing.

You can't know someone in 5 months, much less truly be in love. Next time take things slower, don't invest so much in someone to be your healer/saviour.

Your body can only sustain intense emotions for limited periods, which means how you're feeling now will ebb and flow before fading away. Ride out the waves of hurt, take care of yourself in between. How you're feeling now will drain away - don't think about the future just stay in the present.

Get back out there is my suggestions, it’s always easier to get over someone by getting under someone else in my experience

Ah it’s hard to stop yourself.

This is the worst you’ll feel as it’s so raw. You will feel better each week.