Feeling a bit down

[Feelingblue2219]

I think i have got myself on a bit of a low. Silly things are bringing me down. Because I have not been well my house went to pot . Its quite a mess but could be reasonably sorted from top to bottom on a couple of hours . So logically it's not the end of the world .

But stupid things are getting to me . Like the kitchen needs cleaning I went in there and the blind was closed and it was all gloomy. Normal people would just open the blind. Not me I just walked out and left it.

I have done some clothes washing. My breathing is not good at the moment from when I was ill. but im much better now but not 100% so I asked dd if she can take the wet washing up stairs for me . And I just get an attitude of sarcastic words and huffing and puffing . I know that can be a teen thing and she had to do it regardless. But again it felt like the end of the world.

I Need to hang the wet washing up or it won't dry by tomorrow and I'm just sitting on my arse like a dope .

I'm thinking to get the kids to come help clean up a bit. The younger ones won't even moan they will actually do it with kindness.

In reality I know what I Need to do. It's the doing it part and being able to over ride my unlogic thinking.

I've been feeling much the same way just recently, @Feelingblue2219, and I came across one tiny little gem of a suggestion which is helping me to re-frame my whole way of looking on hopelessly at the tasks piling up.

I still compile a short mental checklist of the most pressing jobs but instead of thinking of it as "Things that need to be done", I now call it "Things done" and have the little pleasure of adding a big tick beside each. It helps me to feel I've achieved something despite feeling low.

Today that's been putting powder in the washing machine ready for tomorrow's load, buying a loaf from the corner shop, and doing 10 rows of my knitting project. Little triumphs over the inertia!

It's good that helps you and you managed to so a few bits .

I decided to call the kids from their room and get them to help me. We did the kitchen together, the hall stairs and slap dashed the living room.

I actually do things the wrong way instead of getting the kids to help me with the house before they can do fun things . I let them do the fun things first. But that's because I'm really not feeling it in the morning and I just sit there and do nothing feeling dopey.

I was just just talking to the kids and I said I think that maybe instead of you doing the fun things first you should help me first because that means you have done something kind by helping me and then you get rewarded with something you enjoy. And I added because sometimes (not all the time) you say words like do i have to , it's not fair, why can't you for it yourself , or you just get moody and it doesn't feel nice to listen to . My 8 year old said he wants to be able to do the nice things before hand because you normally chill in the mornings and I will help you when you ask I don't mind. The 9 year old made a massive huff and went omg why . You have to do things yourself you know. I had to just let it go because he's autistic and obviously didn't pick up or fully understand what was being said . He will still have to do it regardless but I just felt my words were wasted . Never mind least we done some stuff