posting here in the hope of a bit more traffic and help as only one reply in legal
last year ex went to family court for a CAO and ended up with nothing more than he had to start with. i was LIP and asked the Juste that seeing as we were in the court arena would he consider a Live With Order in my favour. Despite ex trying to block it the Judge listened to my explanation about how it would future proof elements eg if ex starting to mess around returning the children. Judge agreed and the order was issued.
this has infuriated the ex as not only did he get me labelled an unfit mother or achieve absolutely anything that wasn't on offer all along but now i have the Live With Order. having trawled the internet the most i can find on top of clarifying who the children legally live with, it gives me the ability to make day to day decisions but major decisions like name change, education etc still need to be discussed with ex in line with PR.
as a result he is now trying to interfere in all kinds of day to day decisions. he doesn't want any responsibility for things like routine health appointments or to actually collect the children of school send them home poorly etc but he is now insisting he receives every bit of minutiae of information. it's becoming troublesome for school who are trying to discourage this behaviour and it's also intruding into mine and the children's lives. For eg ringing the GP to check what i've passed on about a medication is true, quizzing the children about all sorts of day to day stuff that he never bothered with before.
can a wise person explain what day to day matters and the Live With Order means legally and point me in the direction of a link? i suspect he is plotting to return to court for some reason soon so i really want to be clued up.
this is just a move on of all the other horrible things he has done over the years, last year was family court, year before malicious allegations to my employer, year before dicking about not turning up for the children etc. it's been relentless for years.
all help welcome!
PS i can't afford legal advice as ex doesn't see actually financially providing for the children as his responsibility and there is a CMS tribunal pending but that's a different story for another day.