I don't want to sound overdramatic since it's just a playdate but I don't want to upset anyone so not sure how to approach this.
DD is 7 (Y3). She is in an all girls school and socials are very complicated. She was severely bullied last year by a girl who used to be her friend, school had to get involved, parents called, girl banned from approaching DD. The little bully has left the school and the country, so all good.
When DD started Y3 she made another friend. This new friend came over for a playdate at our house and things seemed OK for a while. Since the beginning of this spring term DD has been a bit upset coming from school and it turns out this new friend has been unkind to her a few times plus she is a bit domineering and doesn't let her play with anyone else, keeps pulling her a bit too hard by her jacket or hand away from other children. Having had her previous awful experience, she's a lot more cautios now and really doesn't want to put up with unkind behaviour.
A week ago this girl's mum texted me to ask if DD would like to come over to their house for a playdate next weekend. We were a little perplexed by the request and DD told me at the time to just say yes but she'll think about it. DD has moved on to another girl now who is really sweet and kind and really does not want the playdate with former friend next week. I'm inclined to tell her mum the truth that there were some playground issues and DD is not keen anymore. Would that be OK? Mum is very nice, I don't want to sound rude or upset anyone. I'm really anxious about it, we are a handful of parents, only 14 girls in the class, English isn't my first language either. Don't want to burn bridges. Any suggestions?