Parents of 3 kids… what’s it like?

[fortwilllliamm]

Just asking as my heart I’ve always wanted 3. DH is on the fence.

our 2 are 4yo and 2yo. 2 weeks between birthdays so an exact 2yr age gap. First year was absoloute chaos I was depressed and so down it was tough because our eldest had a speech delay which caused more tantrums/meltdowns , and youngest was quite needy (don’t like the word but can’t think of another for it) wouldn’t even let anyone else hold her or she’d sob! Only me. She only let DH do more nearer 1 it was so hard!

I feel we’re in a bit of a rhythm now they’re older, and if I wanted another I’d want our youngest to be 3 onwards , so stil got time etc

but, what’s it like? I see mixed things. That the 3rd completed them, or that it’s so hard and awful 🫣

Be brutally honest whether that’s good or bad experience ! Haha

Expensive.

Having 3 had made holidays and days out unaffordable for us. Everything is geared towards two adults and 2 children.

I adore my third, he’s the light of the family but I wish I could afford to do more with them all. I’m poor financially and time poor as well!

I didn't decide to have 3 because my 2nd was twins, but I always had my heart on 3 so I was delighted. I didn't have a transition from 2 to 3 so can't comment but the trickiest part even now is being outnumbered, 3 clashing weekend activities. It's particularly difficult with young kids and bedtime routines. But if there is 5 or 6 years between oldest and youngest you can manage. Just make sure to carve out one to one with the oldest child as much as possible. Difficult as toddlers are they don't need you as much as a 5 or 6 year old.

The thing I love the most is the fact they have 2 sibling relationships. I think there can be a lot of pressure on the relationship when there are only 2. They have different things in common and different dynamics and I love that they will have each other forever in some form or another.

Edited to add booking holiday accommodation is a pain and really limited.

Honestly, I think it's fantastic. I love the shape and pace of my home and it's incredibly rewarding. Worst thing is the laundry.