How to stop overthinking and being a massive twat?

[ThewrathofBethDutton]

Loads of examples of this.

Im now going over and over and over something from yesterday and now of course in my head, catastrophe is about to strike with dire consequences to my twattery.

Im menopausal, I’m insomniac, I’m in such a spiral.

Tips on how to put a stop to this?

It's difficult to advise without you being more specific, but I found in the past what helped me was challenging negative thoughts before they spiral. It does take effort and practice but after a while becomes easier and now It's an automatic response.

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I get this every day! It's so annoying.
It's just negative self talk. Work out how you feel about the situation, why you feel that way and challenge your negative self beliefs about the situation.

I also like to repeat this to myself when i am feeling a bit rubbish. "I am a fantastic bitch!"

I AM a fantastic bitch. Yes. Yes I am..

Also, had a bath with bubbles and Dawn French’s twat audiobook, bloody brilliant!

Following as I can struggle with this too - hands over face… meditating helps me, literally forcing myself to. And reading, listening to podcasts/novels, computer games. Anything to take my mind away from it.
also trying to exercise some self compassion (harder) by imagining myself caring for myself the way I care for younger relatives.

Sounds like the perfect antidote..

That's the ticket 🤗

Be kind to yourself. Sometimes we do or say things that may or may not be mistakes. Sometimes (most of the time) we worry about what people think of us. I second what @Positivemindyourset said- think about what you would say to a younger relative in this situation.

Yes I think we can be very harsh with ourselves and negative self talk.
I'm an idiot
No one likes me
I'm so stupid
I'm a useless mother

Would we say any of those things to a friend, no we wouldn't, we would be kind and offer words of encouragement. Learn to be your own best friend.

I'm currently undergoing hospital treatment and have just been told about an 'Cloud Visualisation' exercise to help with anxiety which may also help in your circumstances.

• Sit in a relaxed position, close your eyes, and breathe gently, in through the nose and out through the mouth. Repeat this four times.
• Visualise a beautiful sky, with clouds floating away from you.
• Turn your attention towards your thoughts whatever they may be.
• When you are ready, take your first line of thought, and visualise putting it on a cloud and watch it there.
• Then watch the thought gently float away from you.
• Do the same with your second and third lines of thought and any others that remain.
• Notice that a clearing is made in your mind, restoring you to a sense of calm and clarity.
• Breathe…in through the nose and out through the mouth…in through the nose and out through the mouth.
• When you are ready, open your eyes.

I went through a stage of putting a little black jeweller's box on my bedside table. Each night, I would go through my worries in my head. Then I'd imagine folding them up and placing them in the box overnight. They were still there, I could get hold of them any time I wanted, but I didn't NEED to have them in my head while I was trying to sleep.