This man I was seeing for 3 months is a performer and has lots of young female fans.
He is well known in his hometown for being a womanising party animal. He was plying women with alcohol and drugs to get them to sleep with him and boasted about his 'success' with women..
I got entangled with him unfortunately but only found out when it was too late that he'd refuse to use protection when I asked him to.
I was a regular recreational drug user for about 12 years and managed to give it up after a long struggle. I hadn't touched any of it for over a decade before I met him but it brought back a lot of powerful memories and I got nostalgic for that part of my youth. I was drunk and high on the drugs he gave me when I first slept with him.
It was horrible seeing him trapped in the same cycle of addiction plus he also suffers from erectile dysfunction - I really tried to help him but it was draining and exhausting when he kept saying that he wanted to give up the drugs but would end up doing it all over again.
The drugs made him erratic and violent and his ex-partner of 4 years reported him to the police for assault. In the brief time that I was seeing him, he also joked about giving me two black eyes and killing me for fun. When I pulled him up on it, he didn't seeing anything wrong about making these jokes. I would say that someone would have to be quite mentally unsound to think that domestic violence is in any way a laughing matter.
These young female fans are vulnerable and could easily be taken advantage of. I am sure that they would happily sleep with him and go along with his unwillingness to use protection. Also, it's a massive ego boost for someone like him who is insecure about his virility and has such low self-worth.
His drug use is also likely to impair his judgement. Should I write to his employers? I really want to protect these young women from potentially being exploited and abused.
He is apparently seeing someone now but he cheated on his partner early on in their relationship and then strung her along for 8 years before breaking up with her. Till this day, she still doesn't know about his infidelity and was absolutely heart-broken that she had lost who she thought was the love of her life. He didn't tell her because he was too afraid of the consequences of his actions and confessed that he was enjoying cheap rent whilst living with her.
I feel like I should flag up his problematic tendancies with his employer - I have kept quiet about things in the past and wished I'd spoken up more yet another part of me just doesn't want to waste any more time or energy on him.
It's been over a year since things ended and now that my feelings of anger have subsided, the resulting clarity means it feels like reporting him would be the right thing to do and will make him accountable.
I am completely repulsed by the fact that I slept with someone as repugnant as him and the thought of possibly seeing him again makes me feel nauseous. It was a lucky escape and I have met some lovely men since then.
I have already reported him to the police anonymously but should I give them evidence (screen-shots etc) so that they can investigate the matter?
I know there's the belief that karma will eventually kick-in for men like him but I also think if he isn't called out for his revolting behaviour then it's letting him off the hook.
I'm in such a pickle, would love some advice.
p.s. I checked myself for STIs after he dumped me and was thankfully ok - it would be a whole different matter if he'd given me an STI.