Is it my age? Cleaning/cooking.

[DustyLee123]

I used to clean my house weekly and enjoyed the feeling of a clean house, with the fridge full and the lawns mowed. But in the last couple of years I’ve started to hate cleaning and cooking, absolutely hate it and resent the time I have to spend doing it.
Not sure if it’s age (50’s) or something else.

It’s an age thing.

I never loved it but did it.

Now I just keep a very organised house (minimal clutter) and do sporadic small cleans and a big clean when my kids are home/left for Uni (3 times a year). I am also decluttering, simplifying bank accounts and generally moving towards a more simplistic life.

My kids have to cook for themselves more when they are home now too as DH and I are happy with beans on toast some evenings and kids want meat all the time.

You don’t have to continue as you were before. Don’t feel any guilt about living more for yourself now.

I’m 30 and have started to hate it too when I used to love nothing more than having a clean house. I kept it to show home standard.

Now it feels like a never ending chore just to keep on top of keeping the dishes done, the kitchen and bathroom clean. It’s still very clean and tidy but I’m sick of doing the same thing day in day out and I assume that’s the problem. It’s too repetitive but needs done.

I can cope with the cleaning, but I can't bring myself to cook anymore. I always hated it due to adhd, but it feels impossible now. I mostly eat cold, easy to put together foods and salad, muesli, toast, boiled eggs etc. I've lost weight too, which is a bonus. I eat when I'm hungry, as opposed to having set mealtimes.

I’d definitely cook less it it wasn’t for the others in the house, and clean less too!

I'm
Just sick of it all tbh. Also 50s

Same here.in my 50s.
Still motivated to clean but haven't cooked in yrs since dcs left home.
Best bit is I'm a chef 🤣

I’ve always felt like this! When I lived alone I’d only clean and tidy when it really couldn’t be ignored any more and I despise cooking. I lived on cereal and pre prepared meals. Now I have a partner who does all the cooking.

Podcasts are your friend here
or music
or audio books
find something you enjoy listening to and it feels less like a chore

I can’t say I’ve ever enjoyed housework. I do just enough to have it looking reasonably presentable, with the occasional blitz if/when guests are coming to stay.

Nowadays I have a great excuse for ignoring it - I knit items for which there’s always an urgent demand, and a long waiting list. Much more satisfying! The depressing thing about housework is that it’s never finished - however clean and sparkling everything is, you’ve only got to do it all again far too soon.

I always hated cooking. The older I get the more dread I feel about it. I still love a clean and minimalist home but my new home needs so much work that it's impossible to keep clean. Sometimes I could dump it all in a skip!

Could you afford a cleaner? Game changer for me.

Both were just miserable, unappreciated chores. We now have a cleaner and I’ve said I’m not cooking every night (3 adult DC currently living at home).

My dc are older teens now so although our food shop bill is higher they sort their own food out as I'm working when they get in and dh is on a totally different work schedule so he sorts himself out aswell

I hate cooking and thinking of what to eat.

In regards to cleaning we keep on top of tidying etc during the week.
Dh will put hoover round and do kitchen sides etc of an afternoon and il whack a load of washing in when I get in and then sort it by bedtime a few times a week

The bathrooms get a wipe over and squirt of bleach daily then on a Saturday morning early while listening to podcasts il do a good clean everywhere.

I couldn't do it with out podcasts to be honest as I also hate it but once it's done I feel better and then can chill later on not thinking I need to do it.

Have noticed today though that the doors and light switches need a good clean so that's now on tomorrow mornings list

We have a cleaner. I've always hated housework.
I've come to loathe cooking too. It's so relentless.

I find housework boring but I do enjoy the feel of a spotlessly clean house. Cooking, I hate and always have done. DH does more than me, and now my kids tend to cook for themselves more than us having family dinners, because they prefer different foods, or are eating at different times. So I probably cook once a week on average and the rest is cooked by someone else, quick meals or a takeaway. I will never ever go back to cooking every day, it's just not happening!!

You don’t have to continue as you were before. Don’t feel any guilt about living more for yourself now.

Going to second this. Especially if you have children, once they're mid teens onwards they are more than capable of starting to cook for themselves.