DH complained about my cooking. Any one else need a vent? Come join!

[Nicecuppatea2025]

DH comes home tonight. There’s a meal ready for him. It’s home made bolognese and perfectly nutritious and tasty for a quick midweek meal.

He’s onto his second bowl then suddenly announces - whilst waggling his fork - “you know, one day, I’ll teach you how to cook bolognese properly”.

No need for the lesson; I will never ever cook that man bologbloodynese again.

Anyone else need to vent?

'one day' starts tomorrow. He cooks bolognaise - and any other dish he chooses - every day to demonstrate his superior cooking skills. Your job is to flutter you eyelashes and tell him how wonderful his cooking is. While eating said food.

Ha ha he’s blown it !

Yeah no cooking ever again!

I live alone and if someone so much as makes me toast, I'm incredibly grateful. Was always taught you eat what you're given even if you aren't keen and say thank you to whoever made it

My friend used to be "mayo? Mustard? Tomatoes? Lettuce?"
Now she just puts food in front of me

My instant reaction would be pure anger but the next day … Ok darling since you know how to cook the spaghetti perfectly you are taking over cooking oh and the food shopping thank you for doing more darling really appreciate it!!!

Or a new patio

Why forgivable if he's Italian?

The worst bolog I ever ate was made by an Italian... I even watched it being prepped and cooked, hoping that I might learn some authentic ideas.

OP, I think you'd love to never cook for him again, and from what you describe, he doesn't deserve your time, effort, and even love that you put into it.

I think tho, that to ensure harmony, you'll carry on as before, and endure more crap from this awful specimen of arrogance.

I so wish you could've just turned around and told him , that as he's the self appointed masterchef of the household, he'd won the golden ticket to be responsible for all meals.....,

Bolognaise for mid week is very ambitious! It's strictly a weekend thing here.

I wouldn't be cooking for him again!

Mine is currently a drunken idiot who keeps falling off the bed. I've left him there. He will regret it in the morning because we are abroad and the floor is tiled but I've picked him up once. I ain't doing it again 😂

How rude and ungrateful of your husband. I would encourage him to go into permanent teacher mode - I.e do all the cooking himself while you watch, sipping a cup of tea.

My dad once complained my mum was overspending on the weekly grocery shop. He spent two hours every Friday evening wandering round a packed supermarket, struggling to find items or pick substitutes for out of stock items and doing frantic maths to try and work out the best deals for about six months until he grovelled sufficiently and acknowledged mum was actually doing a decent job in the first place. I suspect the supermarket value range tartare sauce that he purchased as part of his economy drive helped him to come to that conclusion - he hated it!

YANBU

I'd have pushed his face into his bolognese and then considered the merits of stuffing the waggly fork up his arse.

I'm a big fan of making people stew in their behaviour when they say awful things like this

Ask him why he thinks that's an appropriate thing to say. Keep pressing for what on earth possessed him to open his mouth.

And please come back tomorrow and report that you've only cooked for you and any kids.

Bolognese isn't Italian. They make a ragu which would be the closest equivalent.

Apologies, I bow to your superior knowledge.

Where is the fork now?

Bolognese = from Bologna = Italian.

The full name is ragu alla bolognese. It takes three hours to make it "authentically" which is why most people don't bother as you can make a perfectly nice meat ragu in half an hour for a midweek meal.

Off topic, but when I make (Nigel’s) bolognese, I do so at a weekend and split into boxes for reheating. Then it’s a v good mid week meal.

Those who don't do - don't get to criticise! Ever. End of.

Insult to injury - there was a portion left last night, which I planned to have for my lunch today.

However, after I went to bed, DH scoffed all the leftovers too!!

Is he normally like this?

I wouldn't be able to resist a snarky remark about that.

Don't cook for him any more until he grovels.

My dh never complains about my cooking - he wouldn’t dare or he’d be cooking for himself. However he does like to give me a commentary about the jobs he’s done for me throughout the day. I can cope, just, because it’s really not very many comments. And never ‘I’ve cleaned the bathroom and downstairs loo’ or ‘I’ve cleared the kitchen after you have stood and cooked our delicious meal’.
I might start giving a commentary about what I’ve done but I might wear my voice out.

"Let's make our own dinner in future" would be my response.

You say you are never making bolognese for him again? Do you intend to cook for him at all? I really wouldn't. The only reasonable response to being handed your dinner is "thanks love, that looks great".

Sod getting him ready meals - let him get them himself, or cook his own food.

How often does he cook for you? How many times per week do you come home to a cooked meal on the table?