Ds friends dad shouting at ds down the phone

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Ds is 17 almost 18. He is gay. He has a friend who he's known since he was 3 hes just turned 18. through nursery and school. This friend has tried flirting with DS a few times tried to kiss him . Ds brushed him of turned it into a joke . Because he's not his type of person and he's known him such a long time.

The friend has always said he's straight but tried it on with DS so them DS thought the friend is may questioning his sexuality . Anyway . Ds was not overly worried ds said he just made it into a joke and left it at that.

The next thing DS knows is his friends ds dad has called DS shouting down the phone at him telling him that his son is straight and not to try it with him again. He's not welcome at his house etc.

Ds thinks the friend has probably tried to talk to his dad about his sexuality and that it's gone wrong and the friend has used DS to get out of the situation.

I'm just a bit worried because its a middle age mature adult phoning ds and shouting at him down the phone

Ds and his friend has just sort of forgotten it really. And meeting up etc . All I can think is just to tell ds not to go near his house I don't think there's much I can do is there really

Honestly, I think your son sounds like he's dealt with it in a mature, kind and insightful way, both in how he handled his friend and in his explanation of what may have happened at home for his friend. I would feel the same way as you in wanting to protect my child from his friend's unpleasant father, but I reckon you can comfort yourself that he has reached 18 with an ability to deal with this without your intervention. And that's to your credit!

Yeah I know it just worries me because I think there's a big difference between an almost 18 year old and a middle aged man. I guess I'm over worrying after all it was just on the phone . So no physical harm has happend.

Oh I get that, and don't disagree. I'd definitely be keeping an eye on it, and advising him to steer clear, but I think once they are 18 all you can do is advise unless they actively request your involvement. You sound like that's your thinking too. Hope it all blows over soon. Horrible seeing your child dealing with homophobia from a lifelong friend's dad (and can't help feeling sorry for the other boy too).

The friend's dad sounds like a thoroughly unpleasant twat. I don't think you can do anything much apart from be there for your DS if he wants to talk to someone.

Your DS sounds like a good person who is so far handling things well so far.

I don't really know them that well really. I have only seen the dad a few times . The mum used to do school pick up . Ds and his friend went to different secondary school so I have not seen the parents since the boys were around 11 years old .

The phone call was about 5 days ago

Did you witness the "flirting" or just have ds version of events?

Thank you . Yes I don't think there's much I can do . Logically it's just verbal down the phone . And ds and his friend are just carrying on as normal. I just asked ds to keep away from the dads house just to be safe .

I said I have not seen the parents since the boys were around 11 years old. The boys would meet out and stuff . They have always had contact. Popping over each others houses etc .

No

They are not at college . They see each other when ever really . There's not really a pattern.

Im not really sure why your asking me about college/work etc it's not really anything to do with the situation .

You have it all wrong .

But yes probably not to much to worry about. And likely to blow over.

Did your ds ask his friend about it?

I'd want to know why my friend's dad was calling me over something that happened a while ago?

That said I'm an over protective pain in the ass and I'd be having words with anyone who threatened my kid with their homophobic bullshit.

I don't know if ds has actually spoken to the friend about it . Ds just said to me he thinks the friend may be questioning his sexuality tried to talk to his dad about it. It didn't go well and he's got a bit scared and used ds as his escape goat sort of thing .

I won't be making contact with the dad. Ds does not want me to. And it sounds like the 2 boys friendship is ok.

Well i was more worried about the father than the 2 boys . Yes the phone call was almost a week ago but then the 2 didn't talk for a few days. Then when ds said they are meeting up . I felt a bit worried incase the father starts on DS