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Do you think this man is interested in me?

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amandie · 28/01/2025 02:19

We met around April last year, at a charity volunteering event. I am late 30s, he early 30s. We are both medics, he is interested in making a switch to my area of work, we started talking. He is lovely! Quite an intense person, passionate about his work, he is also buddhist and into long meditations etc, doesn't drink alcohol, very kind and sincere. Didn’t really fancy him at the time, saw him as a friend.

Anyway he messaged me quite a bit since the event, and we have sent texts or voice notes at least weekly, sometimes more often ever since, with a zoom call maybe once a month. We talk about all sorts of stuff, sometimes work, sometimes family, he talks about his buddhist stuff, I talk about my hobbies too. Texts have the odd kiss and heart emoji, but we have never ever been flirty. It’s been friends talk. He lives on the other side of the country, at least a 5 mile drive away, we’ve met twice since at other charity events.

He is single, I am single, and my friends think I am crazy not to believe that he is interested in me. I guess I did wonder to begin with, as he really did seem keen to pursue the friendship, but it just hasn’t gone in that direction. I suppose I would be happy to explore that side of things, but I’m not sure that he’s interested! My normal way to find out would be to go out for a bottle of wine together and see how things go, but he lives so far away and doesn’t drink anyway so I can’t do that!

How does it sound to you?

OP posts:
username299 · 28/01/2025 02:34

I would say that he sounds nice but he lives 5 hours away. You would be looking at a long distance relationship and one of you having to move should it work out.

It's been quite a few months and the relationship hasn't progressed to flirting or any indication that he wants anything but friendship.

What you could do is start some gentle flirting and see how he responds. If he's interested, he should run with it.

pincklop · 28/01/2025 02:48

Are you even interested in him? He might be nice but can't see any reason you would want more . Hes far away, different religion, different people.. if you aren't sure he really likes you at this point then there isn't enough there to further it.

BaguetteLady · 28/01/2025 02:54

@amandie
How does it sound to you?

Sounds like a good friend to have.

He lives far away and tbh neither one of you sounds mad keen in a romantic way.

I think I would just leave well alone and not drive myself crazy running hypotheticals.

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