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To have a third baby

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Lurkinmn · 27/01/2025 19:48

I have been thinking about having a third baby lately but very unsure.
I have a 3 year old DS and 3 months old DD. I am very grateful to have both a DS and DD and feels family is complete.
I am 35 yo and DH is 41 yo. We had DC but later than we would have liked as we don't have any family around to help us out and we wanted to become financially secure.
It's hard Atm but I feel I might want a third baby. DH is fine with whatever I decide. I had 2 C-section and recovery has been hard, that makes me worried about a third section.
We have a 4 bed house and I work in a decent public sector job with flexibility and family friendly policies. We have some very good primary school near our house. We bought a new car 2 years ago, it should be okay but bit tight for 3 kids. Also, I think about the logistics around going on holidays as well as taking them to various sports and clubs through the week. For secondary school, we are open to moving to another area where there are good comprehensive as well as grammar. If we stick to 2 kids, we are planning to send them to private school for secondary but if we have third, we won't be able to afford that. Also, we invest money towards kids ISAs, but it will be reduced if we have third.
I feel so unsure and time isn't on our side. None of my friends or siblings have 3 kids so I can't discuss with anyone in real life.
Any suggestions are appreciated.

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onegoose · 27/01/2025 19:55

I'd rather have 2 dcs in private school than a third child.

Lurkinmn · 27/01/2025 19:58

onegoose · 27/01/2025 19:55

I'd rather have 2 dcs in private school than a third child.

I think about that a lot about the difference in my DCs lifestyle with a 3rd DC.

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FishFashFosh · 27/01/2025 20:00

Honestly, I'd totally park it until your youngest is at least 18 months. Ie don't give it any more headspace until then. At this stage, it's often the hormones talking. Plus it's better not to have a tiny gap so you can fully recover.

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Blueskies3 · 30/01/2025 11:20

You have a tiny baby. Just enjoy the two you have and see how your feeling/thoughts evolve. It is likely your hormones at the moment

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