I'm morbidly obese and have been since a child. Twelve weeks ago I weighed in at 20 stone 7 pounds and something inside me snapped. I felt angry and fed up that I had got to this point and powered my rage into doing something about it.
So I did a pile of research on how to find your correct deficit number, started calorie counting and walking more, included more fruit and veg in my diet and I have now lost 2 stone so far. I haven't told anyone I am doing this, but people are starting to guess because they can see it in my face apparently.
Two friends and a colleague this week have all commented "you look amazing, have you lost weight?" When I reply, yes, they are beaming with positivity for me, which is nice. Until they ask how much I've lost and how long its taken and suddenly it's as if I've told them I'm living off air and water only.
One friend told me 2 stone in 12 weeks is "worryingly fast" and I must be "drastically cutting my calories". I replied to her that if you count 1800 cals a day as "drastic" then sure, but I've researched a lot into it and am doing this the proper and safe way. Explained the weight loss will slow down as time goes on. She said I can't possibly be eating that many calories and be losing "so much weight".
The other friend and the colleague have made similar comments. One even accused me of using weight loss injections and lying about it! Honestly it's made me annoyed that people are sticking their noses in when I'm being perfectly healthy.
I have 8 more stone to lose and the thought of people clutching their pearls in horror is taking the shine off my achievements.
How do you deal with this? I'm guessing it will get worse the closer I get to goal. Why can't they be happy that I am finally putting my health first and reducing my risk of a lot of horrible illnesses? I'd be delighted if a loved one was doing that, I want them to be around for as long as possible.
I don't understand.