How do you know you're done?

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Hii
Posting in the chat topic for some opinions and advice

I'm happily married, have 2 kids (age 3 and 1.. both boys)
Always said I would be happy with 2 children and it was a struggle to get here in the first place so we are so blessed to have our 2 wonderful boys.

My heart wants me to have another baby to try for a girl (so so cliche I know, but the heart wants what the heart wants)

How did you know you were finished your family?
Are 3 children really a lot harder than 2

Any advice or experience welcome

(Also fully accepting that if we decide to have another baby it could well be another boy, and it would 100% be our final baby)

We tried for a 3rd the years after 2nd. No luck. 3rd baby came 15 years later.
If we could we would have enjoyed 3 young children. But of course it's a lot of work and you need to sort rooms, sickdaysa nd things like that.
Go with your heart.

We had DD1 after 2 boys and I would quite happily have had another a couple of years after but DH was adamant he was done.
Well 10 years after DD we had a little surprise in the form of DD2. I was 42 when I had her 2 years ago and to be honest I would still happily have another.
So in my case I have never been done and don't think I will be until I physically can't do it again. This will happen in the near future though as DH is going for the snip!

I have three, DH wouldn't consider another so that's how I knew we were done.

Yes, three is a lot harder than two! Or at least it was for me!

If you decide on a third child, bear in mind that you might have twins....

I just knew. So I'd say you're not as you clearly dont feel that way.

we tired for a third, turned out to be triplets!

For me, it was feeling something like relief to be doing pregnancy for the final time- and I felt done even during pregnancy. I felt like I was pushing my luck having a second when I already had one healthy child. For most though, they wait until giving birth and when the baby arrives for that 'done' feeling.

Sadly, we had a mid-pregnancy diagnosis (for my baby) which made me feel 100% done as I'm not taking any chances of something like this happening ever again. I have two of the same sex also but a diagnosis really makes you not give less of a shit about trying again for the opposite sex so another reason why I'm totally done and at peace with that decision.