I am i the only one who dislikes travelling with other people ?

[joel666]

I enjoy travelling solo. I am a 34 year old male and now that i am independent i can decide to travel solo easily.

I don't like travelling with others at all. Specially not with family. When i was a young and lived with my parents and siblings i never looked forward to family trips. To be honest, the only good thing about family trips was bragging to my friends that i went somewhere for the holidays and showing them pictures.

There are several reasons why i dont like travelling with others.

I mostly did things according to my family's plans and itineraries at the destination. I never got to go my own way and do my own things.

On the other hand, my family procrastinates and take their sweet times. It could be a cultural thing. I come from a jamaican household and Caribbean people are notorious for taking their sweet times and then panic when we run out of time.

For example: at the airport, my family take their time to sit and have a coffee, chit chat non stop without paying attention to the time and then hours go by and we panic and hurry ourselves to check when the check in counter is about to close. And then we would be anxious at the long lines because the boarding gate was also about to close.

And the last reason i hate travelling with people is bickering.

Caribbean boomers and gen X adults are also notorious for getting loud and arguing about trivial matters and very minor inconveniences.

Who can relate ? Is it normal to hate travelling with people or i am being crabby and anti social ?

No. You are not the only one. I like solo travel too.

Me too.

Well, I think you’re specifically a misfit with your family in terms of attitudes to travel-related timekeeping etc, but in general solo travel is fabulous for most people because it involves zero compromise. I took myself off to a European city I’d never been to for a solo art break for five days at new year, and literally did nothing but look at paintings from 10 am till 9 pm every day, after which I took a long bath and had room service. I will be in London at half term with DH and DS, and while I will also cram in some art while they go to a match, we will obviously also be prioritising things all three of us want to do, which will mean stuff I wouldn’t be choosing if left to myself, like seeing Stranger Things on stage. It will be fun, but not the same.

To be honest, I prefer travelling alone now. I am single but so used to travelling on my own, I seriously would struggle travelling with someone else.

I hate braggers

I also prefer travelling alone but do travel with my partner on occasion too

I enjoy solo travel and most of mine is solo travel, which means I do the planning, set the agenda, go where I want, when I want. Freedom right?

All of that said, my best ever holidays have been spent with a former partner - including then time when he got the 'flu halfway through a trip aboard and I had to take care of him and we ended up mainly staying in playing Trivial Pursuit! It helps if the person you are with has a similar mentality and preferences to you when it comes to travel.

I don't really mind either but I do particularly dislike (and avoid at all costs) giving someone a lift or accepting one. I would rather walk 2 miles in the rain than sit scrunched up against the passenger door trying to think of polite conversation that won't distract the driver and we end up in a ditch. Or give a lift and have to hang about to bring them back when they've just become the life and soul of the party and I want to slink off home and put my pj's on. Bit anti-social one to one ....

I have spent so long travelling alone, that even when I have to travel with other people now, I am very much "I will be doing it this way. You're welcome to join me, but if you don't keep up, you're on your own!". I find it easier alone, not having to wait for other people invariably faffing round.

Even with colleagues on work trips, I will deliberately sit apart from them and do my own thing on the plane (actually I'll do my own thing even if I am sat next to them!)