DC dad late picking up.

[Illbefinejustbloodyfine]

Brief background, we dont get on, at all. He's controlling, obstructive, and thoroughly unpleasant to me. We don't communicate. He doesn't speak to me at all.

He has the dc 1 weekend day each week. His choice. Supposed to collect at 9.30. He's very rarely here at 9.30. But today it was past 10 by the time he arrived. Surely this is taking the piss? Am I out of order being pissed off? It takes less than 30 minutes to get here so he knew he'd be late.

The time he brings them back can vary by up to an hour. So if I'm doing something I gave to get home just in case.

Is it too restrictive to expect him to stick to set times, given that it's one day a week and the fact that we aren't on good terms?

I know you shouldn't have to, but (if he lives reasonably locally) could you not drop off / pick up. At least then you'd have control of your free time.

He won't "allow" it.

Wouldn't it be a shame if you always had to nip out just after he picked up? Somewhere 10-15 mins away, where if he shows up late he has to wait for your return...

I'd be pissed off too. It's him still being able to exert some control over you even though you're no longer together. But I have no idea what you could do about it.

My ex used to do this and it was incredibly annoying. He would never let me know he’d be late. Next weekend tell him you’ve a 10am appointment so he needs to be here by 9:30 cos you need to leave just after. If he’s not there by 9:35 go out for a drive or a walk

If I tell him I need to be somewhere he'll be late on purpose. I'm sure today was to get back at me for some imaginary slight.

So go out with the children when you get to the time you've told him you need to leave.

I'd also tell him that he needs to do every other weekend, so at least you have alternate weekends that you're not waiting around for him

Go out if he's more than 10 minutes late.

The problem with going out is that then the children will be upset or at the very least they will be confused as they are expecting to go out with their dad.

Also, the more he knows it irritates and inconveniences the op the more he's going to do it surely.

Maybe don't tell the dc the correct time they are going and don't have them ready instead.

Although I think what I would actually do it nothing and just enjoy the fact you aren't in a relationship with him any more every time he annoys you.