really struggling with my 3yo

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It is constant meltdowns or whining I feel like everything is a battle

I try my best I’m calm and patient but he’s now using it as a way to get what he wants because I have a younger baby who’s 9mo who needs my attention and sometimes I can’t try and convince him to get in the bath for an hour I have to give in and let him stay downstairs and play / watch his favourite show

please any tips im really struggling feel like im walking on egg shells😭😭

Not sure if this is right topic but any advice appreciated :( feel like I’m failing g

He probably needs some reasonable control in his choices.

Choice of two things. Let him think he's in control.

And it's normal but really hard work.

You will get through it

Firm but fair boundaries are what they need at that age to feel safe. Giving in all the time can be really counterproductive longer term. That said I’m a big fan of choices to give them the illusion of control but within the boundary that they need. So the bath is happening either way but would he like the strawberry bubble bath or the glittery one (get some exciting bath products). Getting dressed he can choose the red or blue top etc. - it works for almost everything. Also, I would do a sticker chart for good behaviour and he can earn a reward when he gets 10 stickers but be really specific about what the good behaviour you expect is so he knows exactly what he has to do to get his sticker.

Thanks I should look into sticker chart. Potty training only worked so well as we had a little chocolate button bribe every time he got it! Lol he works well to rewards

i feel bad moaning as it’s not a major problem I know some have calmer kids some don’t but I feel like atm everything is a meltdown an argument he just had a meltdown in grandparents because we tried to get him changed while hyper so we let him come home in the clothes he had tea in (and dropped food on lol) because he had such a meltdown