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Getbacktoit · 25/01/2025 11:15

I have been ill since the start of January.its been absolutely awful. My breathing was badly effected. I couldn't walk across the room. My legs were giving way /shaking because I was so breathless . I didn't eat for over 2 weeks .I couldn't do even basic things like fill the kettle up . Make a bit of toast . It was awful.

The kids were ill before I was but they were fine after about 5 days and theirs seemed to be a general flu and they were OK with rest and calpol and back to themselves.

But I have kept them of school they were meant to go back on 6th if January but I have been to ill to take them and had no one to take them. School know I was completely honest with them .

My breathing is better compared to what it was I can do things now but its still a struggle . And my chest hurts and has an odd feeling when breathing especially if I'm doing something. Ds has over loaded the washing machine and he's not emptied it trying to yank the stuff out feels like the end of the world and I know I'm going to struggle doing it .

I have not left my house since Christmas I need to go to the local shop because if I can do that. Then that means I can get to the bus stop for school runs . But I feel a bit scared.

I also need to sort my house out it's a mess . It's not really bad but not good either. I'm only going to do my downstairs area though.

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YourHappyJadeEagle · 25/01/2025 11:18

What medical tests have you had, X-rays, blood tests? Any medication?
You might need blood tests now for vitamin levels especially iron, B12, vitamin D, folic acid.

LeavesOnTrees · 25/01/2025 11:19

How old are your DC ? You don't seem to have any other adult help in your life, is the DCs father around ?

Would you be able to ask the school if another parent who lives nearby could take your DC to school ?
I know I would help out if you lived nearby. If there are a few parentd doing drop offs and picks up, maybe they could coordinate.

It sounds like you need a proper medical diagnosis and treatment for your breathing problems. Would you be able to get a taxi to the drs ?

ssd · 25/01/2025 11:25

You poor soul.

Getbacktoit · 25/01/2025 11:26

YourHappyJadeEagle · 25/01/2025 11:18

What medical tests have you had, X-rays, blood tests? Any medication?
You might need blood tests now for vitamin levels especially iron, B12, vitamin D, folic acid.

I have always had a problem with iron/anemia . But that's a separate issue i take folic acid and iron. The issue I'm talking about today was because I have actually been ill .

Gp gave me 7 days of antibiotics which have helped alot but not completely. But gp said I want have anymore my body just has to try and do its thing

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BalladOfBarryAndFreda · 25/01/2025 11:26

Did you seek medical attention? If your health was that bad, you should've seen a doctor, OP. Please make an appointment urgently if you didn't seek help.

edited - cross posts

Getbacktoit · 25/01/2025 11:28

BalladOfBarryAndFreda · 25/01/2025 11:26

Did you seek medical attention? If your health was that bad, you should've seen a doctor, OP. Please make an appointment urgently if you didn't seek help.

edited - cross posts

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Yes l gp /medical help was done sorty I didn't think I should have said all that I'm my op .

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Roserunner · 25/01/2025 11:28

It sounds like it's been a real struggle for you and now things have got on top and it's hard to know where to start.

How about breaking the jobs down and just trying to do one or two for now rather than everything. Once you do one it will probably make you feel better and you may find motivates you to do more.

If you can manage a walk to the shop I think that would also be good as it will give you the confidence to get the kids back to school. How about aim for a small walk today so you get out the house, then to the shop tomorrow. X

BalladOfBarryAndFreda · 25/01/2025 11:30

I agree that speaking to the school regarding alternative ways for DS to get to school is a good idea. It doesn't sound as though you are well enough to do the school run yet.

Getbacktoit · 25/01/2025 11:46

Roserunner · 25/01/2025 11:28

It sounds like it's been a real struggle for you and now things have got on top and it's hard to know where to start.

How about breaking the jobs down and just trying to do one or two for now rather than everything. Once you do one it will probably make you feel better and you may find motivates you to do more.

If you can manage a walk to the shop I think that would also be good as it will give you the confidence to get the kids back to school. How about aim for a small walk today so you get out the house, then to the shop tomorrow. X

It's not the motivation it's the physical doing it. I am going to do what you said though. I bit at a time . Ie load the dishwasher. Them rest for 30 mins go back put rubbish in bin rest again go have wipe sides down . It takes longer but it will still get done and I don't want to get myself into a mess physically so as long as it's done its OK

My local shop is only a few min walk away anyway . Maybe I will do house things today . At least ik moving around and then try the shop tomorrow

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Getbacktoit · 25/01/2025 11:48

BalladOfBarryAndFreda · 25/01/2025 11:30

I agree that speaking to the school regarding alternative ways for DS to get to school is a good idea. It doesn't sound as though you are well enough to do the school run yet.

This has been done already . They just said to keep them off . But I can't keeo them of anymore. There is no alternative. I live far from the school so that's no mums local to me. I will have to manage but really take my time. I need to start somewhere.

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Getbacktoit · 25/01/2025 12:40

I managed to do most of the kitchen. I got dd to help me. Along with some huffing and puffing from her . Would be nice if she would just do it without the attitude. Least its done now .

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