We need a new word

[debauchedsloth]

There should be a word for this - which I am sure is a common human experience.

I feel sad. I tell my friend about how sad I am, and they comfort me. All good. Lovely friend.

THEN they need reassurance or comfort because they now feel sad because of how say you said you felt.

What's the word for the feeling of obligation you're now under for making sure they feel ok?!

Annoyed 😂

Reciprocal?

Emotional vampire?

Givelywank.

They’ve given you something, but as a consequence of that gift of support, it’s all gone wank. Givelywank.

Givelywank captures something of what I mean. It isn't that the other person is needy or demanding or whatever, just that as you were honest with them - I feel sad - they are now honest with you - I feel sad that you're sad - wish the result that you now feel sadder. Plus you now have to make sure they don't feel sad.

Relational backwash? Honest backwash?

Wobbly chair-leg syndrome?

Someone who doesn’t know when the fuck to keep their feelings to themselves?

Perhaps they are expressing empathy, just a bit clumsily?

Empathighouls?

"A friend in need is a pest"

Ask a German person.

There will undoubtedly be a German word for this.

I've just tried to find out whether there is a German word for it and couldn't find anything but I did find this one: backpfeifengesicht

It means a slappable face or as one person said, a face that begs to be slapped 🤣

"A trouble shared is a trouble doubled".

Alternatively, "Take the hint".

Maybe stop leaning on your friend so much. I think she's trying to tell you it's too much.

Had something along these lines with my ex especially when my Dad died. I couldn't really express myself because whenever I started to talk about my feelings ex would get so emotional it felt like he was taking up all the emotional space and there was no room for my grief.
We went on a pre-arranged holiday that summer while I was still grieving. Ex was seemingly fine and couldn't understand why I wasn't happy.

Maybe their friend is an emotional vampire.

You don't need a new word, you need new friends.

Or they need to learn emotional regulation. Either or really.