If your children miss court ordered contact due to sickness do you offer another occasion to make up the missed contact??

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If your kids are sick during your time prior to handover do you make them go to the non resident parent and if they miss contact do you offer to make it up?

Probably depends on circumstances and whether you coparent flexibly or it's hostile.

Depends what was wrong, a cough and a cold she went as long as she was up for it
D&V then no.

Yes to attempting to arrange another day if there was an easy alternative that suited, contact is for the child and they should see their parent

Co parent is extremely hostile. No communication other than on a parenting app.

If the DC are very unwell or highly contagious I wouldn't think sending them very fair on anyone.

However they are both parents and that includes caring for unwell children and a resident parent shouldn't miss out on plans and quality time just to appease a parent time parent that doesn't pull their weight.

How unwell?

I would be trying to base it on what is best for the child. If they are safe and happy going to contact then yes I'd send them another day if it suited. If not then no I wouldn't.

Let me ask the other way around . If the children’s father couldn’t have them for HIS usual weekend , does he have them an extra weekend another time?

Do the children want to see their father, then rearrange it

Its about their contact with him, not his contact with them

Do whats right for them.

I would if we didn't have other plans if DD wanted to because he never let DD down, and only missed contact if he or his other child was ill and no one wants to catch anything.l from the other.

If he was being an arse or DD didn't want to then I wouldn't

I always let the other parent know they are ill,& how,like cough,cold etc & I leave it up to them if they take them, usually don't & if not no we don't do a make up day & honestly he's never asked for it, he only does 1 night a week (court order) & he misses it at least once a month if not more,he has them tonight for the first time this month apart from 2 hours 2 weeks ago .

DD enjoys seeing him but doesn't enjoy staying over it you see what I mean. She doesn't like being away from home. She'd happily see him Saturday and Sunday but it's the overnight bit she doesn't like.

DD never liked staying over night so for a while he brought her back in the evening and picked her up again in the morning.

As she got older she asked to do one day with each parent so she was at his on Saturday and at home on Sunday yo fit around rugby training matches. Following the birth of his new child and now has to work Saturdays so has HR Sundays instead, this means that D misses quite a few as it clashes with rugby. I don't get involved with any of now, shes been arranging her own time with him since she was 12