Do you ever start a long post / email and do not post / send it?

[SparklyNewMe]

I have poured my heart out this morning here and, in the end, didn’t post, mainly to avoid dwelling further on the subject, reading replies. But it felt good to write it all out, as if I have taken it out of my chest, then deleted.

Sometimes, I do this at work - write an email and do not send. Wait until I detach emotionally from the matter and call the person to talk it through. Is this weird or does anyone do it?

Yes. Often type out a response here and then think, i am not really adding anything to this/no-one needs to hear from me.

Similar for threads i might start. Once written down it feels enough and I don't want to dwell further and actually i have worked out how i feel I don't need input from others.

As for emails I used to write a long one each year between Christmas and New Year listing out everything that was wrong with work and my boss, never sent them but it was cathartic. I found a few before I left and it was basically the same issues each time.

The first version of many emails, when reacting at work often need a few goes to tone down response, take care and make sure i have understood- otherwise I would just be writing "argh ffs" a lot!

Committing a first reaction to something to email, or text is risky. Letting rip about what you really think is too. I don't think what you do is weird, it's mature and professional. Self editing is a useful skill to make sure you get your message across effectively.

I probably shouldn't send this. It could be better!

I find it really cathartic to type out replies on here to the odd post I really disagree with the majority on. But then can't be asked to argue the toss with whoever replies to me, so I delete 😂

Same with emails as @CheeseDreamz at work! I normally type out my gut reaction as a guide and then reword it all so it's professionally acceptable/I don't get fired 🫠

Yes. Sometimes I'll type a reply and think I just can't be arsed with having an argument today and leave the thread.

Yes. Often at work i will type a strongly worded email and then not send. Its helpful to just get it out. I think its good to do that, rather than fire off emails you'll regret.

in therapy you are often advised to write a letter to say the person who caused you issues but don't post it. afterwards rip it up and destroy it you do feel much better its true

You just have to remember NOT to put their name in the address field so you don't accidentally send! I have had some near misses.