I have a crush on work colleague!

[Kruscro]

I have been in this job nearly 3 years and I have developed a ridiculous crush on my colleague. I have never felt like this about him at all before and in fact for the first 18m I barely spoke to him! He works in another team so I don't really need to interact with him at all when in the office.

The interaction with him is on Teams daily. We chat every single day about all sorts and have a laugh. Ordinarily, I wouldn't find him attractive at all but he's very likable as he's very funny. Always lightens the mood.

I know I need to nip this in the bud. He's taking up too much of my headspace! I know I need to stop chatting to him on teams but I can't go completely cold turkey and stop chatting. Do you think reducing it will help. I've even tried focussing on his bad qualities but thats not working!

Anyone else been in a similar situation. What did you do?

Check your workplace policy on intimate relationships before you go any further.

Not a good idea to have a relationship with a work colleague. Other people in the workplace will not like it and management won’t like it either. You need to distance yourself from this man and keep it strictly professional

The reality is loads of people meet their future partner at work (including myself). If you're both single and keep it professional at work it really shouldn't be a problem. As long as he's not superior to you and in your direct reporting line just enjoy the flirting!

I would go for it a little but more and gradually get more to know him.
Be wary of company policies on relationships, although frankly many of these are bordering illegal from what I see...but reality is they can make life difficult.

I had a similar experience many moons ago....we worked in the same employer but not the same directorate. The problem is when you get that itch, you need to scratch it (or have it scratched)and I was getting itches that def needed scratching.

All turned out well for me but I left the company before anything became known as I know this was going to be long term

where I used to work 2 of my colleagues met their husbands in this way :)

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Funny because it’s so true 🤣

He obviously fancies you or at the very least enjoys the younger female attention. Who wouldn't?
If you want to curb it, curb it. Put something in your diary for when you are allowed to chat and stick to it! And say time "got loads to do, no distractions today please ;)" and slowly pair back the communication reasonable times (for you).
Or just enjoy, your both single, life's short and anything that gets you through the day is a good thing.

I take it you’re significantly older than he is ?

There is no harm is having banter and chatting - I wouldn’t expect more than though.

Perhaps you need to develop some friendships outside of work - take this infatuation as a signal that you need to get a life - in the nicest way possible x

Sounds very Gavin & Stacey ,
I love it !
Both single ? What's the problem?!

lol at all of Mumsnet out buying a hat 🤣

I married my work crush!

I don't always see my mentions!

Thanks 😄 its true

How did things go, what's the latest??

Edit, the look confirms he's open to something

I was in exactly this situation. I loved it. It gave me a spring in my step and made going to work a pleasure. Over time I became pretty sure that he also liked me. We were working on a big project and I resolved that if he hadn't asked me out by the end of the project, I would ask him myself. I'd never felt that motivated about any man before,.
In the end he did ask me. We're about to celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary

Aargh! I think he does like me!
Basically I went over with a query to a colleague he sits with and he couldn't quite help me and then he sort of slipped in "Ask crush, he'll help you, he likes you" really emphasising the word 'you'.

Crush just sort shook his head in denial and looked a bit embarrassed. I felt so awkward and just left! 😆

Aww bless him! It's time to make it clear that you've got a crush on him too - i think just look at him and smile - since he likes you, he'll get the hint xx

That just isn't true sorry.