How do you have an intimate relationship with your partner when your children are teenagers?

[Florally]

I just don’t see how there’s any alone time when you have younger teenagers.

They’re too old to go to bed early, they’re too young to be out. I personally didn’t think this was a huge issue but my partner does.

I don’t have a caravan / outbuilding / garden building (which was delightfully what chat gpt told my partner!) we live in a house where closing the door wouldn’t work.

How do people handle this?

We go away overnight, or send the dc to stay with their gm for the night, meet up during the work/school day and have very quiet middle of the night sex when neither of us can sleep.

Why won’t closing the door work? If the door is broken, get it fixed. If you mean the teens barge in, get a lock and/or them some manners.

Just don't be dead noisy. It's fine.

I find hearing mine talking and laughing or just generally being awake incredibly distracting and closing the door simply doesn't work for me.
We are lucky to have an afternoon in the week where we are both home. We also as previously suggested sometimes have an evening out and a hotel. Making time where possible really. It's difficult and annoying to be honest.

Quietly. But frequently. 😊

We're quiet and we have a latch on the inside of the door so we don't get unexpected interruptions!

Carpeted floors and a very steady bed and mattress that isn’t noisy.

Worst case scenario, floor it is. My DD has completely bonkers sleeping schedules so it feels like she’s never asleep during the night, it’s horrible.

It’s a nightmare. Our bedroom borders a teenage bedroom on 2 sides (paperthin walls) and above another. Nothing kills passion like two teenagers having a conversation in the hall outside your bedroom door. Things we’ve done

• morning quickie
• night away in hotels
• shower quickie
• gave up 😀

Why on earth can't you close the door?

I'm a sahm and dh works from home so that helps.

Errrrrrmmm...well... we have a 17 yo, a 15 yo and a 4 yo (who is in with us the majority).
So to say the opportunity is incredibly rare is no exaggeration. I can't book days off when kids at school either as I work in education!!!!
I am fortunate is that our marriage is solid as it's not at all easy.

Do they never go out with friends / to hobby groups in the evening?

What are you talking about? In your bedroom with the door shut. Why is that a problem?