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[Greenstag]

I live at home with an aging mother and I reckon she has the onset of dementia but I just don't know and one of her symptoms is a horrible mood and tone and poor understanding and conprehension and other stuff.

Anyways a few weeks ago I was booked for babysitting on a Sunday morning and that was enough for my mother to start shouting shit at me. It eckong she didn't understand me and it resulted in abuse and anger from her.

I had to go babysitting that day and I went babysitting and small children are going to do what small children do.

All in all it was all day of temper tantrums, one from an old one and then from children who were more manageable by the way.

All in all I got a two day fucking migraine from it all and it just wasn't worth it.

I then have other issues about my work and I worked throughout my migraine last week and then all of this weekend too.

I got a message earlier today asking me to babysit and they are giving me plenty of notice but my heart and my head is just not in this.

There is just too much stress and crap and so very little time for me while everyone wants to hammer their shit at me and take so much out of me.

Do I refuse babysitting or do I help them?

Do you need the money?

What meds do you take for migraine?

I need to go back to my doc for a subscription of sum....something. I think I may be able to get it over the counter too but not a lot.

I have solpadine works well and a can of coke. This is only a new combination for me by the way. I don't take it often.

I'm not desperate for the money. I value my time more to be honest. Which can be limited with everyone trying to get me.

To be honest a two day migraine from a tantrum from an older person followed by a day of younger kids and there was so much pressure in my head. It really isn't worth it.

I can't bear noise.

I'm autistic. I have 2 teens. I could not look after little children.

Do you always have migraines after looking after them?

You could just say you're ill this time? It's true.

Regarding your mum. Has she been to the doctors?

The migraines are only a recent thing for me within the past few years.

I always liked babysitting and I did a lot of it for a lot of different families when I was younger.

The last time I went babysitting a few weeks ago and it was so much harder because it came after an episode from my mother and then it was all day noise and demands and it was just a big fat headache.

As for my mother, she hasn't been to the doctor. She doesn't see what I am seeing and I would be afraid to talk to her about it in fear of a back lash even though I would be coming from a good place and a place of concern for her. There's definitely deficits in her behaviours and moods and stuff and functioning. She's doing stuff that's off and not quite right here and there. It's so so so so stressful.

Assuming you have another job and the babysitting isn't your main source of income then I would just day no to any future requests

If the person who wants you to babysit asks any further questions I would explain that you have been suffering with migraines (if you feel that you owe an explanation)