Did you ever compromise…

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Bit of backstory

eldest is 3, youngest turned 1 yesterday! So lots of emotions brought!

I personally have always wanted 3 kids. I am one of 2. DH one of 3! He said he feels like he could be done now. He’s noticed he really struggles with little babies so 60-70% of the first year and said he feels bad as it’s unfair on me and he recluses. He does. I struggled this time round I got depressed but I was breastfeeding too so that extra pressure and hormones did make me sad.

In the future, would love a third! I feel when youngest is heading to primary start trying. DH did make that comment the other day. I haven’t pressed on it as now isn’t the time to chat. I’m 25 so very young and he’s 30 so still very young!

id still be under 30 by the time we came to try, and have had 2 straightforward ELCS. With my youngest the surgeon literally said I had an impressive minimal amount of scar tissue haha (was sent for CS due to baby sizes)

But did you ever have this? One wants another one does and what did it end up like?

just curious. I have more time but I did get. Little wee pang of sadness when he said he’s maybe done.

Your children are both still very young so I'd give it a bit of time before discussing again. You are still in the sleep deprived, life's tough stages!

For me, the person who doesn’t want another child has a veto. Children deserve to be wanted by both parents.

See how you both feel once both of your children are through the terrible twos and threes stage? If he still isn't keen, it's got to be a 'no more then'.

You still have plenty of time but hypothetically if you had to make a decision now I would say it has to be no as your DH doesn't want another and you can't make someone have a child they don't want