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Selling something and just ignoring these comments

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WynneWu · 18/01/2025 12:30

Am selling some clothes and this lady keeps injecting very personal information into a very basic conversation about the transaction.

Like 'have you got the measurements for the length, I have XYZ and my memory is terrible, I struggle with numbers so much'

I give measurements

'Thanks I'm in a wheel chair so need to make sure it fits in gap'

Ok I can drop of at post office today

'I want it because it reminds me of my dead husband '

I mean what am I supposed to say to all this?

I'm also wary because I've had people fake sad backgrounds before to try and lower prices or get things for free or complain on recipes of good that they're disabled and I've ripped them off etc to try and get a free item

For clarity I myself am disabled and autistic Im on sickness benefits and that's why I'm selling my items, as I'm in a tight spot, but there's no way in earth I'm siclosing that to a stranger. And the emotional trauma dump makes me so uncomfortable and I don't know how to respond.

Why do people do this?

I've just been answering the questions and ignoring the emotional add ons.

OP posts:
Balloonhearts · 18/01/2025 12:34

I just ignore it and answer the direct question.

The dead husband one I'd just respond ok, can you pay cash on collection? Literally pretend they didn't say it. They're trying to garner sympathy in the hopes that you will give it to them free, lower price or deliver it. I just don't play ball.

ForestAtTheSea · 18/01/2025 16:18

you're right to be wary, I agree with PP, this is a weird pattern and probably laying the groundwork for complaints or lower prices. If it starts getting too weird, I'd block them from buying (assuming they haven't bought yet) and in consequence from communicating. Check the rules on the platform whether they can still give feedback before you do block, though. On ebay I'd just block.

This seems like forgoing a sale, but I hope someone else will buy instead. Otherwise I'd just reply factually and ignore all the private information.
Can you see this person's other feedback to see what they are doing usually?

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