Hand hold needed

[Faz469]

Buried my sister today. Can't sleep. Everyone else is sleeping soundly. I'm feeling pretty numb. I'm not even sure if what I'm feeling is right. Life has dealt is a shit and stressful 2025, and I'm due to get married soon. Can't see the wood through the trees.....or however, that saying is supposed to go.

Sorry just needed a bit of a rant.

I am so sorry for your loss. Feel free to rant away. Or tell us something about her?

I'm so sorry for your loss. What are some of your favourite memories of her?

She was amazing. Had the biggest brightest smile. Made friends everywhere she went. Proven by the amount of people that turned up to her funeral.

She was only in her 40s but such a fighter. She literally fought from the day she was born (very prem). Right up to her final breath. I'm so proud of her.

I feel for my son. He's only a baby and will never truly know how amazing his aunty was.

Hi there. I am sorry for your loss. I would say be gentle with yourself. Give yourself time to grieve. You will always remember her. I have a very religious friend and when i have a bereavement she always tells me to take time to remember all the happy times spent with the person. It is a very sad time for you so that is why you need to take care of yourself. I send you hugs.

So sorry that your sister passed away @Faz469 I've lost a sister too so it sucks, I know. There's no right way to feel. I felt numb and shocked and in disbelief for quite some time before I could actually grieve so please be kind to yourself. Try and get as much sleep as you can and eat and drink regularly if possible. Thinking of you. Take care of yourself xxx

That's no age, I am extra sorry she died so young.

Thanks everyone.

She sounds wonderful ❤️

I'm sorry for your loss.

🙁💐 Sorry to read of your very sad news.

Have a handhold, you must be feeling so bereft. A very sad time for you 🤗

Cancer sucks

That is so awful for you. I am really sorry. 💔Did she have any children or a partner?

I would also like to offer you my condolences and a hand hold across the miles.
You'll likely go through the motions of life through the next little while with a numbness that makes you feel somewhat disconnected.
Try to take some quiet time for yourself to remember your DS and to grieve for her.
She sounds like a lovely kind and very brave person who will be sadly missed by many, I can see why you are proud of her.
Share your memories of her with your DS, keep her spirit alive through the telling.
Hope you were able to settle and get off to sleep 💐

No she didn't. She never wanted to be tied down. But she loved my kids like her own. She truly was the fun aunt lol.

Thanks. I think I've managed about an hours sleep. But my lil one is teething and getting his canines in. So I've been up a few times with him. Normally, DP would get up with him and let me sleep, but as I was already awake, I've done the nighttime comforting. Quite enjoyed the extra snuggles, though.

I am so sorry for your loss. Your sister sounds so lovely. When you are feeling stronger in a few months try making a photo memory book of your sister including photos of her with your DC. Then you can keep her memory alive as the children grow up so they will always know about their fun aunty.
You do need to take time for yourself. Could your DP take the children out for a long walk or play centre this morning so you could go back to bed for a rest and hopefully a sleep?
We are all here to give you a hand hold during this time and there are always people around during the night as this usually seems the worst time for grief.
Look after yourself and I am so sorry you have lost your sister.

Losing a sibling is very hard, especially so young. Very sorry for your loss.
I lost my sister 2 years ago. It never goes away, but it does get easier.
Make the most of those extra snuggles

I'm so sorry for your loss OP. 💐

When I'm upset and can't sleep for some reason I get into bed with one of my kids and enjoy the cuddles too. It's the most comforting thing in the world.

Sending you a big hand hold OP. Hope you’ve managed to get a little bit of sleep.
Your DS will know how amazing she was because you will tell him all about her.
Look after yourself and go gently - life can be immensely tough at times.

I'm so sorry.

I lost My little brother when I was very young. It's over 50 years ago and I still think of him and miss him. I wonder what he'd be doing now if he'd lived, and how our lives would have been. But mostly I remember now the essence of him. Of his aura of fun and giggles. Of pure love that surrounded him. Of his sunny, sunny smile. It sounds like your sister was the same and you will remember and cherish her always.

My kids never knew him but I've talked about him to them over their lives and they talk about him occasionally too. My DD has his name as her middle name so he will live on that way too. what I do is share stories of our childhoods, of how much we all loved him. I talk of him fondly and of how much he meant to me and how sad I was to lose him. But I also tell them how his loss made me really appreciate how lucky I am to have remaining siblings, who remain very close to this day. With talking about him my kids too have a sense of him, which is important to me. It's not obsessive, just gentle and occasional chat, but it does help.

But all of that will come in time. Right now you are raw and hurting. Please may I recommend the book 'levels of life' . It's the most beautiful book about grief and coping. Beautiful and insightful.

Sending hugs to you x

Just checking in on your this morning. Hope you managed a little rest. Thinking of you and your family.

I'm at work now, about to take a break and I too thought of you and wanted to check in and say I hope your little one's snuggles helped you relax and sleep some.
As others have said; go easy on yourself, try to take some precious time for yourself.
MNers are always here if you need a hand-hold, take care.

Thanks. Yeah I managed some sleep. My partner got up with the lil one this morning and left me to sleep.

It's been such a busy day. Sorry for the late reply

Thank you so much. It's been a hectic day but I'm snuggled up with DP on the couch now. I'm sure it will slowly start to get easier. For now I'm thankful to have had my sister in my life and I'm thankful for the family I have left.

Hope you have had a restful day today, OP, and are taking extra good care of yourself.