This is odd, isn't it? ExH brought new GF's second hand stuff to my house.

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Named changed for this, but I'm a regular poster. I'm separated from my exH, but not divorced yet. Trying mediation but not making much progress.
He has a new partner. She wasn't the OW or anything like that. Ive never met her but the kids have. She is doing up her house and exH had taken old furniture from her house to use in his own house and dropped a chair and shelves up to mine for the kids bedrooms.
There's nothing inherently wrong with him giving the kids old stuff from her house, but it seems odd to me. I'm also doing a bit of an upgrade to my house and not in need of second-hand furniture.

The only odd part of it is he doesn’t get to furnish your house without discussing it with you and having your agreement first because he doesn’t live there anymore.

where he got the furniture isn’t the issue

He was probably just being practical and not thinking about it being odd for you. But yes, I wouldn’t want her stuff unless it’s very nice 😊

It's not very nice stuff and I bought furniture for the kid's rooms last year. If he was trying to help her out he could have done a run to the dump with it.

Well, he needs to lift it again and take it to the dump otherwise he has given you a disposal problem. As the previous poster said, he doesn’t get to leave furniture in your DC’s rooms anymore. You certainly do not need to keep it.

That's the thing. We're not on good enough terms where he'd take stuff to the dump for me. He has a jeep and trailer and I have a small car and extra junk in my hall.

He wouldn't be taking it to the dump FOR you though, it's not your stuff. It's her stuff. Tell him to pick it up or leave it at his door

Yes! He dumped it at your house, he can take it away again.
Who let him in your house to drop it off?

Why did you let it into the house?

I wasn't here. A DC let him him. He definitely won't collect it.

It's not a big deal in the overall scheme of things. It's just annoying. I need to get a skip sometime this year anyway.
I just can't imagine that if I had a new partner I'd be bringing old stuff from their house home to the kids. I can't even say why, really. It just seems an thing odd to do.
I have nothing at all against second-hand furniture. We we given some and bought some when we were married first.

Do you know anyone else who can take it away for you?

DH 's ex is constantly trying to off load shite furniture on us. I don't know why, we have plenty. I think she just doesn't like taking stuff to the dump. It's really weird!

Tell him the items aren't needed and he can either collect and do as he wishes with it or you'll put the stuff on Olio for free and people will collect it from you.

I feel like it would be an issue, I don’t imagine most people would want their ex partners belongings in their home

Tell him not to drop items round without your permission. It’s just control again. Can you leave outside so he sees! I wouldn’t even ask him to collect but get rid of it on the free sites. If you gift someone something then you can’t control
what they do with it

But the first part of my post would give someone the chance to decide if it was an issue though no?

But in this case it's HIS stuff which needs dumping. He's indeed dumped it ON YOU once, so he can take it away again.

He should have asked you but it’s not a hill I would want to die on.
I doubt he had bad intentions, he probably thought the kids could use them