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Should I be wary of my neighbour?

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Lovelybitofsquirrel3 · 15/01/2025 17:52

my neighbour has PTSD and takes drugs. I have PTSD myself and will be starting medication soon and don’t take drugs. my elderly neighbours advised me to avoid him because of the drugs and he isn’t always right in the head. He seems decent enough but I’m not a good judgement of character, am very shy and don’t initiate conversation with anyone. He helped another neighbour with his garden, has a good garden himself which I think is a good indication of character, he posts Christmas cards around at Christmas, he was very open about his PTSD and doesn’t know about mine. He asks if people are ok over the fence and has just given me some cake he didn’t want which I thanked him for.
Should I be wary or is there anything I should look out for?

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Tulipvase · 15/01/2025 17:54

I’d carry on as you are unless something happens that makes you uncomfortable.
The elderly neighbour isn’t to be believed/trusted over the other neighbour.

Midlifecrisisxamillion · 15/01/2025 17:55

I wouldn't be wary. I'd be respectful, pleasant and friendly but wouldn't build a friendship because drug taking isn't my thing.

anonny55 · 15/01/2025 17:56

Midlifecrisisxamillion · 15/01/2025 17:55

I wouldn't be wary. I'd be respectful, pleasant and friendly but wouldn't build a friendship because drug taking isn't my thing.

Agree!

runningonberocca · 15/01/2025 17:56

A lot of people self medicate with drugs for mental health problems and he may have been suffering terribly due to his PTSD. Don’t judge on the basis of what he needed to do to cope. He doesn’t sound as if he’s chaotic or aggressive due to his use of substances and it sounds as though he is a kind and thoughtful man. No need to be more wary of him than anyone else you don’t know well!!

Fishandchipsareyum · 15/01/2025 17:57

We have a similar neighbour, he was in jail, smokes the weed, says he is mentally unwell etc I am just polite to him and we just try and avoid each other. Its not my preference. We have a family the other side too the dad smokes weed out in the open, so we smell it coming from both directions. Hate it. Couldn't afford a nice area so need to put up with it in close proximity to us.

AgnesX · 15/01/2025 17:58

Takes drugs, like what?

Has your elderly neighbour had adverse experiences with him or is she being po-faced? How long have you been there, has he been ok with you to date?

Depending on the above form your own opinion

Lovelybitofsquirrel3 · 15/01/2025 18:15

The elderly neighbours have lived here for decades. They did say he used to be nasty in conversation sometimes. I don’t know what they mean by that. He’s never done it since I’ve lived here.

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whatcanthematterbe81 · 15/01/2025 20:43

Just don't eat the cake

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