Does everything really happen for a reason?

[justdone88]

Does anyone believe this? I mean this in regard to relationships and life choices.

I always hear this from people but I don't know if that's the case.

Random I know, just wondering what others think of this saying as such.

Absolutely not.

No. It's just something people say to get themselves through the day. Shit happens.

As a Christian, I believe everything does happen for a reason.

No, I don't believe this is true.

No.

No.

No, all random

How does this align with your belief system?

No. Life is random, and in my opinion we have only one. It’s short, and we should live bearing that in mind.

I tend to think of this more like a tree regrowing new bark after a storm. We do generally recover and regrow in some form, and as time goes on, the damaged bark becomes buried by the new. So for example, when my exH left, I was really upset, a storm-damaged tree. But new bark grew and now I believe he actually made the right decision because I am happier with my new bark. I guess a quick way of explaining this is that things happen for a reason when it comes to relationships, yes.

No.

Some people find it comforting to think so. That doesn’t make it true.

I believe everything happens for a reason, but sometimes that reason is 'Shit happens'.

My whole family is dead and I have metastatic cancer, I’d love to know the reason why I have been put through this.

Of course not.

I like to think it does, but in reality no. Some things can't be explained though. Like dreaming of someone, the next day you see them and haven't seen them for 10+ years. Then again, that's called coincidences I guess.

Nope. It just happens. As PP has said, life is pretty random, and so much of it is simply out of our control.

No.

As a Christian, I very much don’t believe everything happens for a reason.

I’m not sure that there is a biblical rationale for saying that it does.

Nope

No it is just something people say to get through the awkward silences of looking for a re**ason.

I think you can often control the reason it happens.

Load of crap, designed to make us accept the unacceptable and to keep slogging on, paying taxes that sustain the system that traps us.

Humans are designed to seek patterns in everything, in order to survive. Then to try to make sense of the past in order to prepare for a mostly unforeseeable future. Then you die.

I don’t think things are always random, actions have consequences even if the action that started the cascade was a long way away and nothing to do with you. I think often you can use things that happen as a learning point ‘I will definitely try/avoid that again’ which is useful as you go through life. But a big, connected, cosmic reason that will reveal itself in some point in the future when we deserve to hear it? Nah.

Well, it's not true. Sometimes people will offer it as a moment of hope to a hopeless person. It's an attempt to be kind rather than deceive. But it is typically, although not always, true that shit doesn't last forever and things can get better.