I'm having surgery next week. It's reasonably routine but I'll be out of action for about 4 weeks, lots of rest and no driving. Dh will mostly be fine to pick up the slack and my dad has kindly offered to help with overlapping after school activities if needed. The children are old enough to be fairly self sufficient. We'll eat more ready meals than normal but we'll survive it.
Dh asked me earlier who else I've told about the surgery, meaning my friends. I've only told one, someone i see at least once a week so she'll notice I'm not around! I have two main groups of friends, one from school (3) and one from uni (4). Like all of us, they have all the usual life/work/family shit going on. We threaten to see each other far more often than we get around to, it's mainly group texts/chats through the week. I know they'd all help if we need it, but it'd be another thing to fit into a busy day if they did. It feels like I'd be putting an obligation on them to offer, especially when it's unlikely we'll need any help. He thinks, and he's probably right, that they'll be a bit hurt if I don't tell them at all. I feel very torn and a bit dramatic either way and I'm not sure what to do.