Ground down by the relentless piles of shite all over my house.

[ThewrathofBethDutton]

Not one bit of it is mine, not one bit.

I want to just get bin bags and put it all out for bin day.,
My hallway has at least 9 pairs of shoes kicked off NEXT to the shoe cabinets, I keep tripping over them. There is the contents of the boot of a car behind the door, empty water bottles on top of the shoe cabinets, now been there for 7 days.
My conservatory is rammed with everyone’s crap, rammed.
the kitchen has stuff everywhere, on every surface.

I clean and clear but then within a day or two there’s more crap back.

Im fucking kicking backsides tomorrow, everyone is off so they can each do an area.

Dhs work colleague is coming round today, my dh doesn’t seem to give a shit that the place is embarrassing. I feel embarrassed and ashamed at the state that they are all seemingly happy to live in.

Im sick to the back teeth of it.

That’s it. Friday rant.
Thankyou and good day.

You all need to have a massive declutter. If they can’t be arsed then they lose their shit that’s lying around.

We have ‘The Saturday box’. Anything left lying around is chucked into it unceremoniously. On Saturday it is tipped out and either the owner of the stuff puts it away or it goes in the bin. This works with little kids, might not if they are 25!

What ages are the people in your house?

This is why living together is hard as people often have different standards and your DH sounds low. DH has lower standards than mine but they are not awful.

If is reaching this level then you need to give a weeks notice and then take eveythjng left out to the tip. The kitchen is a hard one as I assume it’s stuff like leaving cereal boxes, bowls, etc out? Maybe just stop cooking for everyone. Some men really need a rocket up their arse about housework or issues at home. Do you do their laundry? make lunches? Stop all that unless of course they are little children.

My friend is a bit like you but just carries on doing everything. She still washes her adult DS work uniforms, she kind of does it to herself.

I don't get how people can just chuck out stuff that's left lying around. If it's shoes and so on they'll have to be bought again from the family pocket, and then will probably be left in the hall all over again

Ugh, living with other people. 😩 They just don't care, do they?!

Do you have a basement or somthing? I got so tired of everyones shoes being left out of the shoe cupboard that I started throwing any shoes that were left on the floor down to the basement so they had to go search for them if they wanted to wear them. It took a week or two before the rest of the family started putting their shoes away. It doesn't solve all your issues but at least you will be able to get into and leave your house easier.

I hear you 😩

I don’t cook. I don’t make lunches and I only occasionally do laundry. DH does all that malarkey. He’s a slob, messy, a bit of a hoarder.
Hes great at keeping on top of the essentials but doesn’t see the rest.

kids are older so I get on to them, they are more than capable of cleaning and clearing their own shite.

I think you’ve potentially changed my life with this. I am now also going to have a Saturday box.

Do a whole family tidy half hour before everyone disappears for the evening

The day in day out same fucking routine of not being able to sit down without moving someone’s shit, not being able to make a sandwich without cleaning and clearing some space in the kitchen, everyone’s dirty plates, chopping board, cups, glasses, cutlery.
Old letters, recipes (that I can’t throw away because he needs them for tax purposes) left lying around on the dining room table for week after week after week. And yes, there is a box for them but I’m not putting them in it, I just fucking not.
Empty boxes, the fucking empty boxes just lying around, piled up for fucking weeks.

So so so sick of living in a total shit hole.