Lack of boundaries

[Staci2025]

Am I in the wrong for telling my teenagers of infrount of there friend.

So both my kids have a hard time respecting boundaries. They had a friend over and was content in there bedroom . I made them aware that I was taking a bath and not to come into my room until my door is open as I do my body lotions in my room ( door closed means knock door open they may come in ). My son thought it would be funny to play a game of truth or dare and dare there friend to run into my room playing a funny song . Thankfully I had just put my robe on but if I had not this child would be going home saying they seen me naked what of course could get me in alot of trouble. I went into my children and explained calmly the importance of respecting my boundaries and explained to the friend that my room is of boundaries if my door is closed if I'm needed please knock . My children sat smirking and finding it funny so I called them both out of the room and had a more stern talk with them and explained they will be having electric devices taken away and friends can't come in any more if this is the way they want to go on . There friend left shortly after so unsure if she messaged her dad to lift her as friends being told of can feel awkward

I don't think you were stern ENOUGH if anything. They were massively disrespectful to you, I'd have been furious.

The friend would have been sent home, I'd have rung their parents myself and told them their child was being really rude, misbehaving and to please collect them.

My kids would have got a good bollocking and punishments. Grounded for the weekend, no friends round, no phones.

If they show off in front of their mates, their mates don't come round.

Sitting there smirking would've added a smacked backside to their woes and they could forget pocket money that week. See how funny they find it when their friends are all going out and they're grounded and skint.

Kids will only respect boundaries that are enforced. Otherwise you end up with disrespectful, entitled brats that think they can do whatever they want.

I would've been absolutely furious. The child would've been sent home immediately and my children would've lost any pocket money or treats for a week. I wouldn't want to set eyes on them either so they would be in their own room in the evenings. How old are they?

Sorry I know you say they are teenagers but I just wondered how old they were.

You’ve under reacted. That’s really horrible and I’d have been really upset.

That’s the kind of behaviour, I would expect from an eight year old and no older

They are nearly 13 and 14

I’d have hit the roof and, friends there or not, they’d have heard about it. I’d have had the friends parent collect them and told the parents exactly why, and my two would be grounded for a considerable period of time.

Not in the wrong no. I woild also at a later time have a more general talk about respecting people's boundaries.

Tbh I think it is a bit off to take a bath when someone is in your home. But regardless, I think I would have sent the child home straight away. You need to have strong words with your child.

I’d have been furious and would have also told the other child’s parents.