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Blocking inappropriate music for teen- how?

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WhiteLily1 · 08/01/2025 21:21

My child is 12 nearly 13 and is getting into music. I thought Amazon family plan would allow me to set my child up under our household and set parental controls to block explicit lyrics on his iPhone. After an hour of frustrating searching through settings I can’t find how to do this.
Is anyone able to help? How can my child listen to music but I have some control over inappropriate songs and podcasts.

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InStarbucksRehab · 09/01/2025 09:01

BeachHutsAndDeckchairs · 08/01/2025 21:28

I'm not sure if you can. Use it as a discussion point instead of trying to create an insulated bubble and explain the history of the genre, the meaning of the lyrics, why you do/do not like it, what they feel about it etc.

This. I used to know most words to eminems songs from even younger then your DC and I turned out fine. My eldest dc is 8 and we have an open policy with words - if he hears a word he asks me what it means and il explain if it’s bad or ok to use and il explain why. Hes very open with me as a result and is comfortable to ask questions rather than hide things.

Ineedanewsofa · 09/01/2025 09:16

Pretty sure the explicit content filter on all platforms is a language filter and not actually a content filter IYSWIM. Spotify has a ‘clean’ button which plays the radio edits of songs that I as the account holder enable for all sub accounts but even the radio edit only blanks out the word “pussy” in that song so the gist is most definitely still get able!
It’s a real hard line to walk, especially when they are at high school and exposed to kids who potentially are 18 (if there is a 6th form) so I’d agree with pp to focus less on restricting and more on him understanding why that content is negative/misogynistic etc however uncomfortable that convo is! If he thinks he’s mature enough to consume the content then he’s also mature enough to have the conversation…

WhiteLily1 · 09/01/2025 10:14

Ineedanewsofa · 09/01/2025 09:16

Pretty sure the explicit content filter on all platforms is a language filter and not actually a content filter IYSWIM. Spotify has a ‘clean’ button which plays the radio edits of songs that I as the account holder enable for all sub accounts but even the radio edit only blanks out the word “pussy” in that song so the gist is most definitely still get able!
It’s a real hard line to walk, especially when they are at high school and exposed to kids who potentially are 18 (if there is a 6th form) so I’d agree with pp to focus less on restricting and more on him understanding why that content is negative/misogynistic etc however uncomfortable that convo is! If he thinks he’s mature enough to consume the content then he’s also mature enough to have the conversation…

Yes maybe you are right- possibly I should listen carefully to the lyrics of his chosen artist and discuss further. I wouldn’t mind radio edits- I know they will still get the gist but it’s something at least to sensor from the most explicit stuff. Maybe Spotify is the way to go to put some controls in place. Just wondered really if anyone else has been successful in filtering out the worst / making it a little more ‘clean’

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Oreyt · 09/01/2025 10:22

My DDs are 12 and 14. I have enabled swearing on both of their Alexa's.

They aren't 6.

KeiraNightly · 09/01/2025 13:11

WhiteLily1 · 09/01/2025 08:02

Yes it is a huge issue I agree. I do think things will change in the future and it will be socially non acceptable the stuff we let kids have today- but that is still a way off.
Can I ask how your boys when younger accessed the internet without your supervision?

My boys had internet access, but we had strict parental controls and monitoring in place. We paid a lot for this and thought ourselves quite tech savvy, but to be honest it didn’t work well as if you want to have really strict controls, then they won’t be able to access hardly anything. Of course schools expect children to have internet access for homework etc so it’s really difficult. We also turned phone access of at certain times at night, but they still manage to bypass this. At times I felt like I was at war so gave up in the end, though porn access is blocked for everyone in our house and I think this works as i have tested

WhiteLily1 · 09/01/2025 13:17

Oreyt · 09/01/2025 10:22

My DDs are 12 and 14. I have enabled swearing on both of their Alexa's.

They aren't 6.

That’s really helpful thank you. You sound like such a cool mum.

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Timeforsnacks · 09/01/2025 20:25

I'm shocked by most responses.
I thought people tried not to swear Infront of their preteens and early teenagers still, so hearing people allow so much sexually violent content to be available to their 12 year olds has surprised me.
I get its out there so kids are going to see it but surely it's better to slightly limit it when possible, if nothing more than just to remind them that not everyone wants to hear them singing it

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