Bad luck or just me

[mumsthewordi]

I've genuinely had the worst week ever and maybe over overthinking it as some type of bad 2025 omen and start to the year

Work has been awful but to top that off, my daughter and I have been the only ones excluded from another friends daughters birthday- whereas all the other mums and their kids were invited. We're in a WhatsApp group but have drifted apart recently , but feeling really hurt to not at least have been invited. Would you stay in a chat and contact with them or tell them how you feel ?

Then the second thing was my manager being so abrupt and rude to me and undermining me at work, this I addressed and she acknowledged and apologised.

The thing with the mums group is harder, is it petty or just a case of they just have moved on without me, I just wonder why not one of them acknowledged - and then to post on social media was a bit harsh.

I hate adulting , but is this just bad luck or would you also feel like a bad omen for the year ahead too?

No, it’s not bad luck. Life is a series of highs and lows. It’s never all highs and it’s never all lows.

The trouble with seeing things in terms of bad omens/ luck etc, is that you’ll pick up on all the shit things, and not pay any attention to the good things, like you having the strength to challenge your manager and getting an apology. And realising that it’s not that hurtful because you’d drifted apart from the mums, so it’s not your current group of people who have hurt your feelings. You’ve now got the perfect opportunity to do something lovely with just your DD now, which will be lovely.

I have a tendency to think this way OP and I am trying to break it as a habit. Sometimes things are just a bit shit, it’s nothing to do with luck or omens. Things will pick up.

Thank you
Yes feel better now , I don't even feel bad about it now, maybe the women did me a favour

They definitely did you a favour because you can see now that you’ve moved on and, while I’m sure you all wish each other well, you’ve let them go to make room in your life for new stuff.

I think you need to start thinking of at least one positive thing every day. It doesn’t have to be significant. It can be that your DD said a really nice thing to you, or you made the perfect cup of tea, or even that you missed getting soaked in the rain. Let the crap stuff go and focus on the positives.

I don't understand the party situation. You're in a group of friends, you all go to each others parties and aren't invited to this party.
You and your daughter haven't fallen out with any of them but they chose to blank you.

I would contact my friend and ask her why I wasn't invited. I'd assume it was an oversight. Contact her privately obviously.

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This was my thought actually , but deep down I know her answer, it's because we've drifted apart - we were playgroup mums and my daughter and I are the only ones at a school furthest from them, it's funny I felt this too like we've not much In common at the end of last year - but still invited them to my dd bday and Christmas party at ours with their other halves. I know if I reach out they'll say the above - and I don't think I need to force a negative response out of anyone.

I did wish them all well and leave the group.

I don't think there's anyway to be amicable.

I guess I find myself in this territory where I can be a bit doormats vibes , haha! Which is my people pleasing nature - so my focus is self growth, confidence and speaking my mind, at work I've gotten much better.