DD dog to be PTS on Friday

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What can I do to support her ?

Resuce dog , had her 5,years. The loveliest , most gentle girl anyone could wish for .

What can I do now and also afterwards to help my DD(23) ?

I've never had a dog so don't really "know" the loss.

DD has had dog in her work for years , so even going into work will feel a dog shaped hole 😔

A friend recently had to do that. Not sure whether all vets do it but they offered him something he was not normally allowed as the last treat, it was chocolate of some sort. The friend at first was taken aback but of course it's the last treat so why not.

I never had a dog but I was very upset about our cat and never replaced her as couldn't go through that pain again. Still love other people's cats tho.

Thanks, they have "last treat" chocolate at the vets

Don’t take her to the vet. Ask the vet to come to you, to her home. x

I have never owned a dog, but I love dogs, and I have looked after many of my friends' dogs.
I have supported some of my friends after they have had to put their dogs to sleep, too. It is always very sad.

• Some people like to put up some more pictures of the dog in their home afterwards. I have a friend who has a framed photo of her collie (which is now dead) on a small table, with the leash/lead next to it and a small candle. Like a small memorial.
• Some of them want to talk a lot about the dog afterwards, some doesn't want to talk about the dog at all for a while. Follow her lead!
• Maybe you can cook for your daughter, or offer to treat her to dinner at a restaurant. Just to treat her, and make sure she doesn't forget to eat.

Thats tough OP. Just be there for her, go with her if you can. I sobbed my eyes out in reception when I had one of my boys put to sleep. Talk about them, encourage them to share all the lovely, amazing things their dog did. I lost my two boys a year apart and I was incredibly sad for a while, it’s been just over a year and can finally talk without getting sad. Give them time, love & support.

I second asking the vet to do a home visit if possible, much less traumatic for all. Thinking of you.

I’m so sorry. It’s such a heartbreaking loss for everyone, especially your daughter.

We had one of our 11 year old Labradors put to sleep just 6 weeks ago. My 2 DS (25 and 26 yo) were absolutely devastated. They both came with me for the final appointment.

As a Veterinary Nurse myself, I carefully explained the process with them beforehand so they were aware of what would happen. It is such a peaceful process for the dog, slowly losing consciousness, just like they’re falling asleep.

The vet will explain everything beforehand and afterwards, we stayed with our beloved old man each saying a final goodbye to him.

I bought a photo album and got dozens of photos of him and his brother printed off into the album along with little written captions.

We got his ashes back in a wooden casket and I also got each DS a framed picture of his paw print and another one of each of their favourite photos of him.

I hope everything goes as well as it can 💐

They’re our best friends and the loss does get easier, I promise x

Dog is elderly do this is not a shock , they (DD, DD bf and dog) had some fab "family photos" done recently and they have arranged for an "at home" visit from the vet and for cremation at a local , and highly recommended, pet specific site.

I'm helping with the costs of photos/ vet etc as there isn't much I can actually "do". It's time for ddog but we always want it not to be "today" 😔

I was there when my dcat was PTS and it is so very gentle , having just been on "hospice watch" before Xmas for a dear family friend , I know which felt , for me at least, more "humane" if that's the right word. Anyway that's off topic , just making me think of the comparison.

We had Ddog PTS last year. Hardest thing for me was watching DS(20) with tears streaming down his face. We are still grieving, left a very big doggy hole in our lives. We had Ddog cremated and still have his ashes, haven't decided where to scatter them yet, also a paw print. Still have all toys but did give pet food to local rescue.

I knew I would be impacted but I don't think I realised how much

Thank you for all your advice , Friday seemed to be coming very quickly 😕

Actually, there is one huge thing that you can do for her, you can be there for her.
Listen to her if she needs to talk and just be there.

Many people who lose pets find that even good and trusted friends and coworkers don’t understand that a pet is like family and not ‘just a dog’, they can unwittingly come out with hurtful platitudes and make matters worse.

Also, if she needs to call, Blue Cross have an excellent support service for pet loss. All the volunteers have been in similar positions to your DD regarding losing a beloved pet.

https://www.bluecross.org.uk/pet-loss-support