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What's the weirdest thing a guest in your house has done? (Lighthearted)

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ToddlerSwim · 07/01/2025 11:17

DH had a close childhood friend. They were in their early 20s and friend had come over to hang out (just for the evening not to stay over).

DH was still living with his parents at the time and they were all in the living room chatting when friend randomly gets up and announces "right I'm going for a bath" and just goes off and has a bath in their house.

It's such a small thing but so bizarre. What odd habits have you seen from house guests?

OP posts:
menopausalfart · 07/01/2025 16:36

@ToddlerSwim You could wrap them well,put them in a wash bag inside your bag. I would do this with my reusable pads.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 07/01/2025 16:36

Re cleaning the cat flap - I clean mine! I don't even have a cat...

But the terrier regards it as her 'window on the garden', it's at just the right height for her to peer through at next door's cats as they stroll down my path. So I like to keep it clean so she gets a good view...

Katie1936 · 07/01/2025 16:40

My husband insists on taking his dirty laundry to his DB and SIL house, I can’t stop him. (He does the laundry when he gets there himself, says he doesn’t like leaving laundry that needs doing at home) He also takes all the food that might go off while we’re away.

lucky his SIL and DB seem to accept him and keep inviting us back.

BlueSky2023 · 07/01/2025 16:40

ToddlerSwim · 07/01/2025 16:29

It would never occur to me not to put my pads in a bathroom bin and to bring it down to the outdoor bin.

Is it not awkward that anyone using the bathroom for this has to announce their period to everyone by walking their bag through the house and out the door?

I've also never used sanitary bags and was always told growing up to use the wrapper the next one comes in and toilet roll to wrap it tight. I've never had one unravel in the bin.

I'm now absolutely mortified though after reading your post. Years ago when I first started going out DH, I had these weird feeling that MIL was annoyed when I was on my period and using the bathroom bin in this way and not long after she got rid of the bathroom bin never to be seen again. I always assumed I was being paranoid as I had never heard of this being a thing. Now looking back I realise I should have checked.

I hate being on my period at her house now because she has the tiniest little bin in the kitchen and that's it. The outdoor bins in the house she's in now are all the way down the path shared with other houses and so it's not quick to pop out and is absolutely pitch black at night time. I generally just try to avoid going during that time of the month.

Perhaps this is a situation where I deserve a place on this thread.

Luckily we've got someone who fed their dog a used tampon so that makes me feel a bit better.

That was quite nasty of your MIL

I had a flat mate years ago who used to put her used pantry liners on top of the bin if it was full instead of emptying the bin, some times there would be a few of them and they would fall on the floor around the bin, I was definitely not going to tidy them up and no one would empty the bin with this stuff on top of them, her boyfriend was also living in the house and you would think she would be embarrassed for him to see this mess but no, apparently not!…..

Bignanna · 07/01/2025 16:42

It’s true- there’s nowt so queer as folk!

haribo1989 · 07/01/2025 16:43

my 'BIL' came to stay as he was watching football with DP. When he was leaving he says to DP 'I have taken a couple of your hair waxes, you had loads so you wont miss them'

I had bought my DP basically a year supply of all his favourite shampoo's, shaving stuff etc including hair wax. And he just 'helped' himself. I was shocked. DP had no idea what to say. I havent offered to let him stay since lol

SharpOpalNewt · 07/01/2025 16:47

FuzzyPuffling · 07/01/2025 15:42

I cleaned my ( well, the cats') cat flap yesterday. It's made an appreciable difference and the cats are pleased.

Yes, my dad had a thing about cleaning shoes and I just let him get on with it. Being in the countryside and having a dog we have a set of muddy boots that stay muddy at this time of year. I think the volume and frequency of mud defeated him after a while.

LookItsMeAgain · 07/01/2025 16:48

Theflopside · 07/01/2025 11:42

My husband's brother has lived overseas for over 40 years, but came to visit after their mother died. We had lots of issues with him while he was staying with us, but the most unsettling was when he'd left a knife lying on it's 'back' (so the sharp length of the blade was uppermost, iyswim) on the kitchen worktop.
My husband politely asked his brother if he could ensure that it didn't happen again as we had children and didn't want any accidents.
I came home the next day to find every sharp knife we owned lying blade up on the worktop! He'd even found some Blu tack to keep them in place.
He was sent packing!

That's really bizarre behaviour. Did you ever find out why he did that or was it simply to prove a point?

femfemlicious · 07/01/2025 16:49

Tracystubbs · 07/01/2025 14:43

We most have the same mother/mil
My mother had my dc while I was in hospital having their sibling
She took everything that was upstairs and put it all back 'the way I like it' and when I put it all back,I was badmouthed to everyone who would listen
She also got my father to take everything out that was upstairs and not nailed down (while I was having baby no4) and throw it down the stairs-clothes,bedding,toothbrushes,shampoo,kids toys-every single item that was upstairs-hed even unhooked all the curtains
You name it,it was waiting for me when I got home-sat waiting on the stairs for me to put it away
The kids had a field day,jumping and breaking a lot of it (they where really young) encouraged by my mother
I'd given birth less than 13 hours beforehand and they gave me a cheery wave as they left me with 3 kids,one baby and half my house destroyed
I went apeshit and they just couldn't see a problem with it

It was 1 of a 1000 death cuts to our relationship and I'm now nc with them

Why did they do that?

Arraminta · 07/01/2025 16:49

DH and I met at university and the first few times I stayed at his parents I slept in the guest room and DH slept in his bedroom. Fair enough. But then years and years and.......years passed, and I was still expected to sleep in the guest room (alone) whilst DH slept in his old bedroom.

By this time we were both 30 and had been living together, in our own house, for over nine years! In-laws had stayed with us, at our house, and observed DH and I sharing the same bedroom, with no problems.

It was only when we were officially engaged (and aged 31) that the in-laws finally, finally allowed us to share a bedroom at their house.

Never did get to the bottom of why this was? Though, looking back so, so much of MIL's idiosyncrasies could now easily be explained by her being autistic.

keeppushingthrough · 07/01/2025 16:50

@Tracystubbs

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

I just don't understand this. Are they just abusive people? I'm glad you're non-contact with them.

Threads like this infuriate me because I just want to understand why people do these things. They threw all your furniture down the stairs so it smashed and broke, even taking your curtains down and throwing them down the stairs.
You must have had a lifetime of this sort of thing. It's so beyond normal I just can't understand. Is it just that they are abusive? Why did you have them look after your children, did they not have form for this sort of insanity before? What are they trying to achieve?

Michellesbackbrace · 07/01/2025 16:52

Tracystubbs · 07/01/2025 14:43

We most have the same mother/mil
My mother had my dc while I was in hospital having their sibling
She took everything that was upstairs and put it all back 'the way I like it' and when I put it all back,I was badmouthed to everyone who would listen
She also got my father to take everything out that was upstairs and not nailed down (while I was having baby no4) and throw it down the stairs-clothes,bedding,toothbrushes,shampoo,kids toys-every single item that was upstairs-hed even unhooked all the curtains
You name it,it was waiting for me when I got home-sat waiting on the stairs for me to put it away
The kids had a field day,jumping and breaking a lot of it (they where really young) encouraged by my mother
I'd given birth less than 13 hours beforehand and they gave me a cheery wave as they left me with 3 kids,one baby and half my house destroyed
I went apeshit and they just couldn't see a problem with it

It was 1 of a 1000 death cuts to our relationship and I'm now nc with them

But why? I don’t understand…!!? 😳

battgirlatheart · 07/01/2025 16:54

I invited a guy over. I had previously been friends/casually dated him about 15 yrs before. He was quite cool then. Funny and in a band but I opened the door to what looked like an old shuffling man in slippers weird as we had said we were going for lunch.
saw him go over to the mantelpiece didn’t think much of it.
went for lunch and realised it was a big mistake and eventually got rid of him. When I went into my living room I noticed he had parked a big piece of chewing gum on the mantle…
I asked why he felt that was ok and apparently thought we were going to go upstairs for sex and he was saving it for later!!

gabsdot45 · 07/01/2025 16:55

I was in a choir that included people from all over Ireland. When we had performances in my city I used to host other choir members so they didn't have to stay in a hotel.
I once had a girl stay who was performing with us by playing the uillean pipes. She asked if she could have a quick practice in the morning and I said she could. She had quite a lengthy practice session and my goodness it was so loud and she was not very good.

She was a very sweet girl though and she did ask first plus her performance was beautiful that evening so the practice obviously helped.

LasagneLasagne · 07/01/2025 16:55

My ex-BIL once had a shower after he and SIL stayed over. Not only did he use all the hot water, he used every last bit of DH's shower gel, which had a good few 'servings' left in it. I could forgive that if he were a decent person, but he also left puddles of water on the floor, along with his damp towel.
This was a man who INSISTED on being served a roast dinner every Sunday, despite being too much of a lazy bastard to ever cook it himself. Fuck, I was glad when SIL dumped him and we never had to see his stupid face again.

FictionalCharacter · 07/01/2025 16:58

Jaq27 · 07/01/2025 15:22

I guess I'm a peace-loving walkover :/
I love SIL and don't want to create a bad atmosphere for the week.

Telling a guest that you are doing the cooking not him (in your own kitchen) really should not create a bad atmosphere!

LookItsMeAgain · 07/01/2025 16:59

menopausalfart · 07/01/2025 13:47

Damn, her toilet must be overflowing with layers of shite and bubbles.

I've heard of 'shits and giggles' but shite and bubbles is a new one on me! 😆

Arlanymor · 07/01/2025 17:00

JudgeJ · 07/01/2025 16:26

I would have asked him to bring his complete tool kit next time, there are plenty of other jobs need doing too!

Good point! I’ve a loo seat that needs fitting if he wants to pop round!

Ceecee2422 · 07/01/2025 17:02

SharpOpalNewt · 07/01/2025 16:22

That reminded me of a time when DM and MIL both had labrador puppies from the same litter. When we got them together it was always fun, if a little crazy.

Both dogs were well trained but my parents lived in a bungalow so their dog had never seen stairs in a house before. MIL's dog was trained not to go upstairs. When my parents came to visit their dog was very excited to see his sister and they romped around a bit. Then he promptly bounded upstairs and came back down proudly carrying a pair of MIL's knickers from the dirty laundry basket. 😳😂

Edited

This happened to me before, was working away in Ireland living in a static with another Spanish worker, the family bred dogs so one puppy had decided to make its home with me, subsequently came in one day to the Spanish guy dangling my dirty knickers around that the puppy had retrieved stating he thought they were mine 🤣🤣🤣🥴 most embarrassing…….

Hotflushesandchilblains · 07/01/2025 17:03

I kind of love that @Myfairyhanny !

Jaq27 · 07/01/2025 17:06

FictionalCharacter · 07/01/2025 16:58

Telling a guest that you are doing the cooking not him (in your own kitchen) really should not create a bad atmosphere!

He is ex-services and wants to be in control. Thinks he's a top chef LOL.
Anything for a quiet life ... :)
Besides, it's only for a few days, and my DH does stand up to him on occasion and say 'We're cooking tonight'.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 07/01/2025 17:06

Michellesbackbrace · 07/01/2025 16:52

But why? I don’t understand…!!? 😳

I'd guess they did it because the previous time they'd 'helped', OP had had the gall to criticise their 'helping' (because they basically re-arranged all her stuff). So when they had the run of her house again, they thought 'we'll show her' and deliberately sabotaged all her stuff with a 'well, if you don't want us to help you, this is what we'll do' mindset.

Wankers.

Michellesbackbrace · 07/01/2025 17:06

Jaq27 · 07/01/2025 15:22

I guess I'm a peace-loving walkover :/
I love SIL and don't want to create a bad atmosphere for the week.

So I’ve just realised you’ve posted two separate stories on this thread about your nasty MIL and BIL.

You actually APOLOGISED to your MIL to get her to stay after her awful manipulative behaviour? And just stand by and let your BIL cook and make a mess in your kitchen after you’ve asked him not to?

I honestly don’t understand how anyone could be such a walkover - I think you’d benefit from some assertiveness lessons or something!

It sounds like your dh’s family enjoy deliberately upsetting and taking the piss out of you bc they know you and your dh will just take it.

ChicLilacSeal · 07/01/2025 17:13

Twoshoesnewshoes · 07/01/2025 11:49

@PrincessAnne4Eva that’s so very weird!
our good friend sometimes gets up at 2.00am ish and goes for a walk. Rather unsettling at first but I’m used to it now 😂
we live rurally and he lives in London so he like to see the stars and hear the owls or something.

That's insanely weird. Are you sure he's not out committing crimes?

WiddlinDiddlin · 07/01/2025 17:14

My housemates Mum came to stay (in a hotel nearby), we were in our mid twenties, and this was my first proper house rather than living in bedsits.

I had met her before and she'd seemed nice, a bit bonkers but generally friendly, so I was rather taken aback by what happened.

She took us both to a supermarket, one neither of us used as we were both pretty broke. I kept telling her I couldn't afford this supermarket, I was fine with us going to budget supermarket and she kept insisting it was all fine, she was paying etc etc.

So in the end I gave up and she filled a trolley full of all the expensive fancy things Waitrose has to offer (most of which I didn't like and did not eat!)

She also insisted on buying things for the house and again I declined, I can't afford these things, we get by without them (kitchen equipment, fancy mop and bucket etc) but she had to get them, it was all fine, don't worry.

Then later on I overheard her on the phone to her husband, complaining that I had made her buy all sorts of things I now could not pay for! Housemate of course had kept quiet the whole time letting Mummy buy whatever and why she thought any of it had anything to do with me, I really don't know (I do now suspect he let her think I was his girlfriend...).

Later, the pair of them had a stand up screaming row at the dinner table (when she discovered he'd spent the money she sent him for driving lessons on going to some LARP weekend), ruining a meal I had made, and I had an epiphany. I did not need to tolerate screaming verbal abuse and aggro in my home! I was an adult! I could stop this!

So I threw her out back to the hotel she was staying in and told her never darken my door again! I probably should have thrown him out with her but thats another story entirely!

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