Anyone else struggling knowing 2025 is going to be a dreadful year?

[TheGhostOfTheYearYetToCome]

I'm a NY resolution sort of person normally, look forward to a fresh year ahead and the promise it holds.

But this year I know it is going to be awful.
Mass redundancy at the local main employer has led to a big knock on of surrounding business, it is likely we will have to close.

And worse, a few very important people in our lives have had major health problems and are not expected to see the summer.

I just feel paralyzed by what is to come.

My dad was diagnosed with cancer in October. He is having treatment but it isn’t a curable cancer. I’m hoping this isn’t the last Christmas we’ve just had with him.

I'm trying not to think about it, but yes. My New Year’s resolutions are to be kind to myself and try to take care of my health, because such small, self-centred goals seem like the only ones that are achievable.

I'm also working hard on appreciating the small things in life, because the big stuff all seems so awful.

Yes, my ds health is going downhill and it's impossible to fake any hope or happiness anymore 😢

Yes. My fil has terminal cancer and declining very rapidly. We have been told he won't see February. Christmas was hard. He is the most lovely man, I'm closer to him than my own dad. Trying to support my 12 year old through it is also very challenging. He's so close to his grandad.

My daughter has a ehcp and is out of cohort. I know I have a big battle coming up at tribunal foe something untested in case law ( yet).

But I kerp thinking back to something I heard in the cinema screening of a Ghost concert ( rock band). This is life. The up and downs it's part of life.

Trying not to just past this alfwul thing for the next hurdle. This is life. Don't close your eyes to good with the bad.

Why can't I win my appeal? It will be hard but I will be here next year and so will dd.

Yeh I feel alot like this, although also feel it can't get much worse. I'm trying to focus on the positives and be proactive. I've also had to take a break from social media. I cant deal with all the "look at me and all ive achieved in 2024". Im just thankful to have made it through the year. DH was made redundant a month ago. I'm a SAHM but retrained but not having any luck finding a job. Relative has terminal cancer. Car broke down 3 days ago and can't be fixed. Son diagnosed with autism last year and every day seems to get more challenging. I can't seem to catch a break. But hoping for a better year this year. Or at least to change things up.

Yes, DH has terminal cancer and has been given 6 months. He may well have longer as he has age and good health (aside from the cancer) on his side, but I'm very conscious that I'm either going to lose him this year, or spend the whole year worrying about what's around the corner.

I find a strange kind of solace in knowing that it's going to be awful, so at least I can mentally prepare myself. It's too frightening to look at the whole year ahead, and too many unknowns, so I'm just focusing on a month at a time.

Thank you all for sharing. I am really sorry that you find affinity with my thread but it has made me feel less alone.

This is life. Don't close your eyes to good with the bad.

I do like this, I will try to see the beauty around the sadness.

The business is just an awful moment that we will get through - the loss of loved ones is different. All my previous experience of death have been sudden, which is in its own way awful, but the waiting for the call, the sitting at their bed just seems to squeeze the air out of my lungs.

I haven't replied individually but I am sending unmumsnetty hugs to you all.,

Coming at this from a couple of years down the line - I remember very well exchanging new year greetings at the start of 2023, and finding messages such as 'hope this year's a better one' very difficult to hear as I was caring for my mum and it was clear she wouldn't be around much longer. She died in March 2023 so those first few months were quite a blur of caring and grieving, and it was very clear from the start of the year that these known issues were going to unfold making it difficult to welcome 2023 with any excitement. As it turned out, 2023 was also a year in which my employer sold the business which ultimately led to redundancies (albeit in 2024) so in many ways 2023 was a tough year. However, I don't look back on it as a bad year - rather a year that had some bad times, but many good times as well. I hope that for all of those on this thread who face uncertainty and worrying times ahead, that you will also be able to find the good in 2025 and enjoy moments that matter along the way.

Every year I hope the next year will be better. I need to think differently, act in a different way etc etc. No use making resolutions of the healthy eating kind because my birthday is January 2nd!!! But I do realise I need to sort myself out this year and no repeat my troubles of last year (and year before that etc)