Not feeling connected to friends

[Cardiganray]

In my 20’s and 30’s I had lots of friends and could sustain friendships well. I’m now in my mid - 40 and just can’t seem to find people I connect with. I have youngish children and work full time in a professional job, all the friends I have met locally have no jobs outside of the home or have very part time jobs.
A lot of my oldest friends gave up their careers to have children and I don’t feel we have much in common in terms of our daily shared experiences - this isn’t a woh/sah debate but about me personally being able to connect with peers with similar day to day lives as me.
I’m not saying we can’t be friends because we have different day to day lives but that I’m feeling more and more disconnect from peers which leads to quite surface friendships or me feeling like the odd one out.
Any one else experience this?

I'm a similar age to you in a professional job. I have been lucky in that I have met a lot of mums who are similar to me in professional roles and have made some good mum friends. I wonder if it's down to where you live or where you are meeting these people? I'm not sure what the answer is.

p.s my new close friend isn't a mum. It's interesting you think that you need to find someone who is a full-time working mum in order for them to relate and empathise. True friends don't need to be going through the same things at the same time as you in order to be understanding and supportive imo. I have a range of friends across different life stages, different ages, different countries even. They are great friendships, despite not having something as fundamental as being a parent or similar careers in common.