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Really not impressed

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Shithole101 · 01/01/2025 11:34

I'm baby sitting for both GS one is 7 the other is 21 months. Last night the younger one did not seem right. So i asked asked GS has your brother been ill today (as in yesterday) . And he said mummy said he's not 100% which is dd way of saying he's not well. Younger gs has been burning up and chucking up crying. All morning And then during the night older GS was chucking up .

I can't help but think dd knew they were not right health wise. She basically wanted to get pissed . I know she didn't go to bed till around 5am so not a hope in hell of her being awake now.

I'm not baby sitting for the rest of the holidays. I want some time gs and adult dd free . I just want to spend time with my younger kids

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AllEltonHadWasSuccesAndMoney · 01/01/2025 15:36

What will you say to her?

Pandasnacks · 01/01/2025 15:37

It’s possible she new he wasn’t 100% but had no idea he would be throwing up, sometimes it’s nothing sometimes it’s a bug. She should have discussed it with you though to see if you were still happy to risk it.

PullTheBricksDown · 01/01/2025 15:38

That's poor. By this time in the day I think it's perfectly reasonable to ring and say 'get moving, your kids aren't well and it's time you took over looking after them'. We've all done it while feeling below par ourselves.

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Wordau · 01/01/2025 15:38

YANBU to want and have some time to yourself or with your other DC.

As for illness, it's really hard to tell if your child is just a tiny bit off colour, or teething, or going through a developmental leap, or about to start puking sometimes.

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Shithole101 · 01/01/2025 16:34

I take it all back sort of. She's not well either. She,was chucking up on the street. She said it suddenly hit her this morning. Not happy though. Because we are all probably going to get it now. If we do hopefully it's a 24hr thing

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Wordau · 01/01/2025 18:38

Shithole101 · 01/01/2025 16:34

I take it all back sort of. She's not well either. She,was chucking up on the street. She said it suddenly hit her this morning. Not happy though. Because we are all probably going to get it now. If we do hopefully it's a 24hr thing

Or did she just drink too much?!

Crunchymum · 01/01/2025 18:41

New Year, same situation.

What are you going to do to make this year different?

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Shithole101 · 01/01/2025 18:51

Wordau · 01/01/2025 18:38

Or did she just drink too much?!

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No she looked shakey and pale. That does not normally happen when she's had a drink.

Regardless weather it was drink or illness I can't do anything about it. But I am having some gs dd free days now

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Shithole101 · 01/01/2025 18:54

Crunchymum · 01/01/2025 18:41

New Year, same situation.

What are you going to do to make this year different?

I'm not sure what you mean?

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Crunchymum · 01/01/2025 18:58

I mean that you post about your DD taking advantage of you and your lack of time for your other children regularly (and under various usernames) and you never seem to take any action.

So is this going to be another year of the same or will you do something about it?

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Shithole101 · 01/01/2025 19:06

Crunchymum · 01/01/2025 18:58

I mean that you post about your DD taking advantage of you and your lack of time for your other children regularly (and under various usernames) and you never seem to take any action.

So is this going to be another year of the same or will you do something about it?

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I don't have lack of time for my other children.

Yes dd does take advantage. And it is up to me to change that . I just find it very hard to say no. But even in this thread i actually said im having the rest of the school holidays DD and GS free. So for me that's going on the right direction.

Dd is also moving soon ish. Which means school runs will change which will also give me a break

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Crunchymum · 01/01/2025 19:17

Shithole101 · 01/01/2025 19:06

I don't have lack of time for my other children.

Yes dd does take advantage. And it is up to me to change that . I just find it very hard to say no. But even in this thread i actually said im having the rest of the school holidays DD and GS free. So for me that's going on the right direction.

Dd is also moving soon ish. Which means school runs will change which will also give me a break

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Is DD moving in really going to make life any easier for you?

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Shithole101 · 01/01/2025 19:33

Crunchymum · 01/01/2025 19:17

Is DD moving in really going to make life any easier for you?

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It will definitely take the edge off . Because we will live in opisite directions to the school. She won't live just a few bus stops away so it won't be so easy. I will be able to do my school run in peace

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winter8090 · 01/01/2025 20:02

Your not happy because your daughter is ill?

I don't think your daughter foresaw how ill the children would become.

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Shithole101 · 01/01/2025 20:09

winter8090 · 01/01/2025 20:02

Your not happy because your daughter is ill?

I don't think your daughter foresaw how ill the children would become.

Did you read the op? I did not know she was ill until after i wrote the op . Otherwise it would have been in the op not added later . Hence I said take it all back.

Dd is the sort of person who would leave her kids with me even if ill so she can do what she wants . But a agree it can sometimes be hard to tell.

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winter8090 · 01/01/2025 20:34

Shithole101 · 01/01/2025 16:34

I take it all back sort of. She's not well either. She,was chucking up on the street. She said it suddenly hit her this morning. Not happy though. Because we are all probably going to get it now. If we do hopefully it's a 24hr thing

I did read the OP.
But I also read the above where you say you say are not happy (after you knew she was ill)

I would hate to think that my mother was posting on forums complaining about looking after her grandchildren and feeling taken advantage of.

I would much rather she just said no.

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Shithole101 · 01/01/2025 20:44

winter8090 · 01/01/2025 20:34

I did read the OP.
But I also read the above where you say you say are not happy (after you knew she was ill)

I would hate to think that my mother was posting on forums complaining about looking after her grandchildren and feeling taken advantage of.

I would much rather she just said no.

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Well i clearly said im not happy as we may all end up ill . So your clearly twisting what I have said.

And that's fine if you would rather be told that's you . Have you posted on the rest of mumsnet where people are complaining about relatives and friends because there's probably alot . Or just me ?

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Pandasnacks · 01/01/2025 20:45

winter8090 · 01/01/2025 20:34

I did read the OP.
But I also read the above where you say you say are not happy (after you knew she was ill)

I would hate to think that my mother was posting on forums complaining about looking after her grandchildren and feeling taken advantage of.

I would much rather she just said no.

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She said she wasn’t happy because she was probably going to get ill now too, she did not say she was unhappy with her daughter for being ill. I wouldn’t be happy realising I was about to get a bug either.

BoldExpert · 01/01/2025 20:51

Shithole101 · 01/01/2025 18:51

No she looked shakey and pale. That does not normally happen when she's had a drink.

Regardless weather it was drink or illness I can't do anything about it. But I am having some gs dd free days now

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i wonder how the two children coped today with a mum who staggered back at 5am and then had a hangover / sickness combo

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Shithole101 · 01/01/2025 21:03

BoldExpert · 01/01/2025 20:51

i wonder how the two children coped today with a mum who staggered back at 5am and then had a hangover / sickness combo

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Dd had a get together at her house. She went to bed 5am. She collected the kids at 2pm. She did not have hang over. Older ds told me she did not drink that much. I have never known her to have a hang over .

The children were ill and have been asleep all day. So there's nothing for them to cope with they are asleep

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BoldExpert · 01/01/2025 21:05

h. I have never known her to have a hang over .

I know she just wanted to get pissed
she got back at 5am

does she often go out?

BoldExpert · 01/01/2025 21:08

how’s your home op? ( i’ve been on your threads)

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Shithole101 · 01/01/2025 21:11

BoldExpert · 01/01/2025 21:05

h. I have never known her to have a hang over .

I know she just wanted to get pissed
she got back at 5am

does she often go out?

Right that was in my first op . I said she basically wanted to get pissed . Then in my other post I said I take it all back... I said she got to bed at 5am not that she got back.

I think I'm just bring a prick even replying

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Shithole101 · 01/01/2025 21:12

BoldExpert · 01/01/2025 21:08

how’s your home op? ( i’ve been on your threads)

Good thank you

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BoldExpert · 01/01/2025 21:15

Shithole101 · 01/01/2025 21:11

Right that was in my first op . I said she basically wanted to get pissed . Then in my other post I said I take it all back... I said she got to bed at 5am not that she got back.

I think I'm just bring a prick even replying

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yes but the fact you assumed she just wanted to get pissed would indicate that it was expected behaviour from her