Anyone else left with the kids tonight?

[Merrychristmastome1]

I do love my kids, so not complaining about being with them.

Partner has decided he's odd out to the pub tonight. His words were "I'm not ditching the kids. I'm ditching you".
I'm boring because I don't drink (he drinks most days). I'm also getting over illness, still dizzy and can't taste or smell.
It just feels a bit rubbish as I always associate seeing the new year in with people you care about...
Am I being unreasonable to be upset? I'm happy to be told I am.

Youre partnered with a dick that's the problem.

You know full well that it's better being a single parent not feeling resentment towards a partner who doesn't actually partner you.

Whether other people also have shit husbands, or hard working partners on shift tonight will not solve your issue which is your mate prioritises alcohol over you.

In response to your original thread title, i am staying in tonight as i have a 3 year old who will be in bed at 6:30. However so will my husband and we plan to play boardgames, drink some wine and maybe have melted brie with sourdough bread

In response to your husband/partner. Neither of us would dream of doing that.

Wow I know we’re not encouraged to ask what’s in it for us in relationships but in this case maybe you should give it a try

My husband wouldn't even think about it! Your partner's clearly shown his priorities tonight. What a cockwomble

Honestly, in healthy relationships many couples will be doing this, but planned and agreed together. Just because you don't want to go out, doesn't mean he has to stay but as a partnership this would be give and take. It does not sound like you're in a healthy relationship.

I would happily stay in on NYE with the kids if dh wanted a night out. The difference is he speaks and treats me like an equal. We share money, chores, childcare and free time.

Your other half doesn't seem to even like you.

I did a small survey of my friends on NYE earlier this week. And they're all either out at a family friendly party or having a party at home. No DHs leaving their partners and kids to go out partying (1 DW is working though so we'll let her off).

Honestly, it's just not how families with a positive dynamic work.

I'm getting over a stomach bug so DH and I have cancelled the friends we were having over tonight and are staying in together having steak and a family movie.

This wouldn’t bother me. My DH is much more outgoing than me and has more stamina for a party so if he wanted to go out and I didn’t, we’d do our own thing. We did last year and it was no big deal. Neither of us want to go out this year so we’re off to the cinema in a bit.

Your dp doesn't care about you, in all honesty it sounds like he probably doesn't even like you but will stay because it's easy, he's a high functioning alcoholic if he drinks every day but can continue to work etc, I've been exactly where you are op and it was soul destroying, we are divorced now 14 years and although difficult at the time it was the best thing I've ever did. My ex is remarried now and still drinks every day, he's so overweight and bright red in the face from alcohol I'm surprised he hasn't dropped dead. My eldest son recently told me that his dad (my ex) was so drunk and aggressive a while back that his wife was frightened and called my son for help. They don't change op.

Not the same but I'm in with the kids as dh is working and has worked all through Christmas. Hospitality sucks!! That's so mean of your partner, how selfish. He should stay in with you or at least go for an hour or two and get home for midnight 😠