Just want to vent

[JudeGarret]

Anyone else really struggling with their mental health at the minute?
I'm all over the place, my DH has been diagnosed with cancer for the 3rd time, we are in active surveillance, which I know is positive as they aren't rushing into treatment but I'm finding it really hard to know it's in his body and nothing is being done about it.
Trying to find peace in the world of the in between but it's so hard.
I can't tell anyone how I really feel in real life as then I feel worse for making them feel bad.
I honestly wish I could run away, I don't know what I'm posting here for, I suppose just to get it out of my head.
I have kids and run a business and I can't lift myself out of this headspace.

I just wanted to offer a hug op, be kind to yourself

So sorry, OP. I don’t have anything helpful to offer, but am thinking of you. I hope 2025 brings you both health and peace x

I think you think about what sort of cancer, what the odds are, and if you are both happy with active surveillance based on treatment side effects Vs change in odds. And if on balance you are, then you roll with it. And if not, you push push PUSH for a change of treatment plan. If the plan is the best for your situation, you can only accept that it's another part of life - things go right and things go wrong. Best of luck to all of you x

Totally understand your feeling of helplessness but the fact that no treatment is prescribed at present is a hopeful sign. We are all very good at catastrophising and thinking aboutthe worst outcome but do we spend an equal amount of time thinking of the best outcome? Easily said. Perhaps try to live in the moment a bit more. Enjoy each day you have. Things are good now, and long may they stay that way.

Thank you all for taking the time to reply. It's a very lonely road sometimes.