Ok long story so I will try to not make it over complicated.
Had some of my dads family over from Ireland (technically dads cousin and his wife but for ease i refer to then as an Uncle and Aunt) from the 18th of Dec until Thursday, staying with my retired Mum and Dad in their reasonably sized house,
My Mum came down with a cold ( she alleges, she's not the easiest of people in comparison to my lovely laid back dad) so My Aunty phoned me Friday to ask if I would mind if they both stopped with me for a few days to get out of of my mums hair and avoid any infection themselves ( My uncle has COPD and a multitude of health issues) a tad last minute and I didn't have an awful lot of food in ( as mainly been eating out/ picky bits during 'crimbo limbo') but not a massive issue, and they relatively easy house guests, just happy to sit watch the tv whilst we do our own thing, bit awkward in parts as we only have a 2 bedroom house with the 1 toilet, its just me my partner and our 2 dogs, but we tend to sleep in our own rooms due to shift work / snoring/ dogs invading the beds etc , but again not a massive issue, I didn't really hear anything from my mum and dad, I believe it was my aunt's decision but I felt my own parents could have rang me first, anyway they stayed from Friday to Monday, and went back to my parents yesterday, however whilst they were with us, I barely heard from my Parents checking if Im ok/they are ok ETC. and on Monday ( i was wfh in my little home office) I quietly phoned my parents to ask if there had been a falling out or why they aren't really bothering with their guests any more / questioning whether there had been a fall out, they both said no and that they were coming over later ETC, fair enough.
However my silly daft bat dad failed to hang up properly and I heard my mum going to town on my aunty. saying she's pushy, they are staying too long ETC with my dad neither agreeing or standing up for his relatives either ( he tends to stay on the fence ) any who i was annoyed with my mum for being like this but kind of got it, she was under the weather ETC but what really riled me was she then went on to praise my brother ( who i adore but is a very selfish and he admits it, bachelor who does what he wants, not really gone out of his way to spend time with our relatives whilst they have been here, joining us for the odd family meals when its suited him and was with us christmas day, but gone ahead and done what hes wanted in-between ETC ) which is fair enough but still. I heard my Mother say to my dad ' Well Insertbrothersnamehere has more up top for keeping out the way of them' which isn't really intentional he just isn't the type to change plans with friends , whereas me and my partner have turned the odd thing down due to ' having family over from Ireland for Christmas' to not look rude.
But I am fuming, that he is being praised for being selfish whilst I'm being referred to as the ' dumber' sibling for being kind and caring and trying to keep the peace!!!
I phoned my dad and said you do realize you didnt hang up etc , and they were saying they didn't mean it like that bla bla bla, they are annoyed on behalf of me and my partner because its not fair on us a couple, I told them if that's how they feel then to just let them stay at mine until they leave which would be too much as im still working from home and my partners back at work Thursday and as much as he has been brilliant with them , deserves a few days to do what he wants , but if it kept the peace than so be it but they said no they want them back and promised they weren't falling out with anyone so they have gone back to theirs now.
But I am so cross with them for putting my brother on a pedestal , and all this unnecessary Drama, from Thursday when they leave , I'm thinking of asking my parents to leave me alone for a few weeks so I can have some time to myself to be annoyed by their comments ( as opposed to having a blazing row and blowing my top)
My partner thinks this is harsh etc. but I feel necessary for my well being.
Thoughts?