How old were you when

[ShadowTheHedgehog]

When you stopped spending christmas/new years with parents?

Me and my dad have only this year really started spending time together getting to know eachother after he walked out on me and my mom when I was around 7 (I'm 26 now).

My mom has been in a relationship with someone for about 6 years but I've never met him (I made a thread about this a few years ago) so since then, she's gone to his for christmas.

I don't really have anyone else so I've tried my best to make christmas and new years feel like any other day of the week.

I'm 40 and still spend Christmas with my parents.

NYE is usually me and DC at home, but DS1 is going to his friends this year instead.

I saw my parents every Christmas until they passed away. Once my dad died my mum either came to me or my sisters.

When I was pregnant with DS1 I stayed with her on Christmas Eve.

30 for my mum and 42 for my dad, because that's the ages I was when I lost them. Only ever spent one Christmas not with them and that was a weird day spent with an ex-boyfriend's family when I was a teenager.

Lost my Dad in 1996. He died on our honeymoon, so we've had my Mum every year since as she's only got us.

Hadn't spent NYE with my parents since I was approx 18 (1986). My Mum isn't easy and to be honest she's very lucky DH tolerates her Xmas Day, New Year would be a step too far.

I'm sorry to hear about you losing your parents. I can't imagine how that must feel x

That sounds lovely and cozy

I spent my last Christmas with my mother when I was 10, she passed away the following May. I spent my last Christmas with my father when I was 40, he passed away the following September.

I’ve only once not spent Xmas with my mum, which was when I was on the other side of the world with a BF for an extended holiday.
I do tend to invite her for NYE if I m not going out, otherwise she’d be on her own. Her partner died about 10 years ago- before that we’d do our own thing for NYE.
I’m in my sixties.

Parents separated when I was a kid, I'm 41 now.

Until she passed last year I spent almost every Christmas with DM, the exception being one year with DPs family, who live hours away.

Boxing day has always been for DF side of the family. I'd say I've seen DF most years.

New years has always been for friends, until we started having our own families and now nobody does anything 😂

I’m 42 and DH is 50.
We had MIL for Christmas Day and went to my parents for Boxing Day.
Until my Grandad died a couple of years ago he spent Christmas Day at my Aunts and Boxing Day at my mum’s which means until a couple of years ago I was still seeing my Grandad at Christmas time.
We’ve never not seen both sets of parents at Christmas or all Grandparents as long as they were alive.

About 21 when I moved in with my now husband.

Almost every Xmas until they died. DS 32 has spent almost every Christmas with us except the year he went to the US to spend Xmas with his then girlfriend.

I was 16. That was when I left home and never went back!
I've only ever been very low contact with either of them since although my dad died years ago.

But my own DC are in their 30s now and still always spend it with me, unless they've actually been away somewhere, so that's nice.

My parents spend Christmas Day and Boxing Day with me, my husband and son. I am an only child, so there's nowhere else for them to go, unless they stay on their own. I'm 50, and my parents are in their 80s. I wouldn't have it any other way to be honest. Unless, they particularly wanted to stay on their own, I'd feel mean leaving them by themselves.

I'm in my 60s and still do.

Should I have stopped OP? Was there an age after which it's unfashionable to do so?